How do I combat the mindset that a gf is only settling for a relationship and is longing after ‘alpha’ past hookups?

unlivedbread · 2021-01-27T18:54:15+00:00

You'd be surprised at the number of women who just want relationships in university. Sure they want to fuck but afterwards they want to start dating and shit. The majority of the time they won't have sex with you till you start dating

I usually don't get insecure as long as the girl is attracted to me (gets wet during sex, initiates sex, cums during sex) and wants to spend time with me

Philipparty · 2021-01-28T00:09:37+00:00

The cure is called trust and vulnerability.

Sounds cliche, but really, the mindsett youre talking about is ego protection. A part of you doesnt belive you can be loved 100% by someone while being 100% yourself. Thus you build up an idea that all women will look for other men, because when it inevetably happens, it wont hur as much.

But here is the biggest issue. Your mind is a friend, but can be a d*ck. If you think this, you will enevetably lead it to come true

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2021-01-27T20:35:34+00:00

I've never in my life wanted any of my exes. Most women do not want their ex, period, end of story.

Also, I don't do hookups, but even if I did I wouldn't thirst for a past hookup either.

Inareskai · 2021-01-27T22:27:01+00:00

I've never wanted casual hook ups. It's a joke amongst my friends that the first thing my partner knew about me was that I wanted marriage and children and I was only interested in something serious - and that was before we'd even thought about dating! It's just a fact people pick up about me quite quickly. This was when we were 18.

You don't want casual hook-ups, why would you assume you're in the minority? You didn't, I didn't, my partner didn't. Many people don't want just hook-ups, it's really not that uncommon.

RedPillDetox · 2021-01-27T20:13:50+00:00

TRP is BS, dude, eitherway if you wanna put it into perspective everybody is "settling" for someone, if we didn't have restrictions we would obviously go for a "perfect" partner in every single aspect, so yeah... doesn't matter if men or women.

Title	How do I combat the mindset that a gf is only settling for a relationship and is longing after ‘alpha’ past hookups?
Author	AquaBeck
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Date	January 27, 2021 6:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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