How do you find confidence in your appearance?

tiposk · 2021-09-27T22:37:42+00:00

Lack of confidence is a fear, in this case, a fear that you'll get rejected for your appearance. This sounds counterintuitive, but something that works is exposing yourself to whatever makes you feel fear. When people are afraid of heights, therapists recommend them to experience height in a safe manner. The same happens with your looks. Look at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself "I'm ugly". Grab your worst clothes, get the worst hairstyle and go out for a walk, repeating to yourself "I'm very ugly". After 30 or 40 minutes go back to your house and put on your regular clothes. This should help.

GUlysses · 2021-09-28T06:24:22+00:00

Fake it till you make it.

Seriously. I walk into every club with my back straight and head tilted slightly back like I own the place. That isn’t really my natural posture, but I find that of I act confident, I will start to actually be confident.

Literally just pretend you are the sexiest and most important person in the room. It doesn’t have to be true, just act like you are.

RedPillDetox · 2021-09-28T08:13:04+00:00

You embrace the fact that you're ugly and aim high and try to conquer the things you want anyway

Karissabest · 2021-09-28T05:03:40+00:00

Change the story you tell yourself in your head. You BELIEVE your ugly or not worthy of something, even though I guarantee there's evidence to the contrary that you're ignoring. Using basic scientific methods of looking unbiasedly at ALL the evidence, you'll find confidence is within, and that it didn't actually ever matter what anyone ever thought of you.

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Carkudo · 2021-09-27T22:23:25+00:00

You appraise it accurately and take it as what it is. Enjoy the good (if there's any) and remember that anything bad that happens to you because of your appearance is not your fault. If someone dislikes you for how you look - it's them being shallow. If someone stereotypes you for how you look - they're the bad person.

A word of caution: the normies tend to equate confidence with feeling good all the time. That's not true. If you're not good looking, you won't feel good all the time - you can't really confidence your way out of the fact that no one will set next to you on the train or you might never find a date - that's going to sting and it should, it means you're alive. Confidence in turn means that you might feel bad about those things, but you won't hate yourself for it.

And if you can change your look for the better - go for it, do it all. If you have the option of plastic surgery, try that as well.

BabisBaymax · 2021-09-28T04:40:41+00:00

The real question should be: "how to have confidence at all" :v

bonobo-no · 2021-09-28T17:31:36+00:00

Find something you like about yourself physically. For example, I like my curly hair and my weight (140 lbs).

Belatorius · 2021-10-06T06:06:56+00:00

My biggest insecurity is my hair line. Its a massive widows peak that goes back pretty fair. So i shaved my head. Been doing that for 5 years now. What used to bother me greatly, I like now. Also I have great fucking teeth. Probably my best feature so its easy to smile.

Shycel · 2021-10-09T22:12:41+00:00

I dont

ITrustedTheProcess · 2021-09-30T19:45:10+00:00

You will be ignored until you can provide something of value for a woman. People won't like to hear this, but it's true

Title	How do you find confidence in your appearance?
Author	KindKitten25055
Upvotes	6
Comments	17
Date	September 27, 2021 9:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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