I've always felt as if a lot of what is being discussed in the manosphere isn't really reflected in my life.

I hate to make the distinction but it seems to me that there aren't as many problems among university-educated people and couples who both hold some degrees. I rarely hear about crazy divorces, cheating, "betabuxing", dating single moms, "women falling for the drug dealer alpha gu while ignoring the good guy trope" and all the drama.