I have an important question in this sub

RedPillDetox · 2022-11-02T17:52:09+00:00

No, because it was a very gradual experience of recurrent failure over time

bdcarlitosway · 2022-11-02T18:25:39+00:00

I felt relieved knowing that it was BS after seeing all the holes in its' logic. A year and a half later I feel more relief by actively deprogramming all the harmful stuff I consumed up to that point.

I feel like I've lost tons of negative burden over time and feel lighter by still deprogramming myself to this day. I don't ever want to fall back on that toxic shit and feel better than ever. I still have to catch myself when I have intrusive thoughts/biases about heavily tattooed/pierced women and single mothers. I feel a lot better in my interactions with women nowadays.

Interneth0e · 2022-11-02T18:09:51+00:00

It wasn't instant, but I just couldn't take being around it anymore and after years of helping my guy friends see the grey and good life had to offer I got too tired and left. By the time I was mentally checking out they had all become bullies, were all overly and weirdly obsessed with my sex life, and would all basically say things along the lines of me not actually thinking what I'm thinking because "the truth" was that women were evil and liars.

So therefore that meant the kindness that I was widely known to share was now being done for attention or some ulterior motive that wasn't actually good. It was a fake good. I was putting on a show apparently. Anything that I did with goodness, morals, and virtue would be flipped into a trick or something to laugh at me over. And these were friends I had for years that turned his way. It was sad to watch 95% succumb to being abusive.

It took lots of therapy to figure out what these guys did to me, but what I knew now was that some would resort to massively messed up stuff to "get" me or to prevent other men from having me. It was so infuriating because some men that I adored for the vulnerable and amazing men they were dipped into being absolute jerks and someone I wouldn't even give the time of day. They learned a 'program' to get better and to me, they only got worse.

After it clicked that it didn't have much to do with me and had more to do with how they struggled with growing up, not only finding but working up the nerve to tell the woman they liked that they liked her, and building their identities as men, I felt better. I desperately wanted to understand because I didn't want to be rude just because I was ignorant, but it put a hole through my soul. It was just too exhausting keeping up with all these new rules on what 'good' women were supposed to be and how to not be labeled as trash or a slut.

I was already a good woman, damn it. Not perfect, but I actively tried, every day. It literally only took a couple of months for my general good mood to return, my kindness was returning, I was more comfortable defending and enforcing my boundaries, I wasn't so angry all the time, I didn't mind telling people to fuck off if they had reached my limit (and if you knew me, you would know that I have the patience of a Goddess most days). It was like once I got away, the sun came back.

Beatles - Here Comes The Sun 🌞

xvszero · 2022-11-02T23:10:09+00:00

I think it took me like 10 years to shake off all of my horrible views, so I never really had some instant change.

Yabbari_The_Wizard · 2022-11-03T00:30:42+00:00

It was a slow thing, I realised I was always angry and seemed to hate everything with a woman, gay person and black person in it. Not cause I was racist and having racism ideals burned into my brain 24/7 that was just raw coincidence.

But youtubers like No Bullshit and Steven Crowder were the reason I broke out of the insanity.

It took a while and I do still fall back into the rabbit hole since yt and tiktoks algorithms love to push that kind of stuff on guys

thom92Pf3105 · 2022-11-03T05:48:06+00:00

Yes i detoxed. But i still feel and have conspiracy feelings about the welfair society being the Big suckerdaddy system for women created by feminism. But my mom hit me and was an alcoholic when i was a kid so i gues it is just ragefuel.

Diaming787 · 2022-11-11T03:27:30+00:00

I'm typing this all out on mobile, so excuse for typos.

Yes and yes. It was an instant. I'll tell you my story below. Throughout this whole time, I'm a liberal.

I was 14 when I had my first crush, and now understood what romantic love is. However, I flopped hard in middle school. I reasoned to myself: "I'll definitely have a true girlfriend in highschool". Nope, at least not I was wanting. Whenever I want a girlfriend or a date, I try to look up tips online, little did I know many were from red-pill, although I also got advice from girls themselves, wanting true nice men. However, I then took "nice guys finish last" with a grain of salt. I did, however, met new female friends, half of which I had initial attraction. That helped me see them as humans. So far so good. However, fast forward to college, I see people getting dates so easily and I'm the only one left, and that "girls wanting only bad men" mentality kept being reinforced. One day, I read the Elliot Rodger's manifesto, and despite I didn't support his actions with shooting, I related with him. Everytime I see a girl of interest, it always flop. Am I doing something wrong?

Then one day, mid-2021, I encountered a YouTube channel "Think before you sleep" and found into a rabbithole of RedPill, now knowing what is it about, making me more socially conservative. Wait, I'm a liberal, I guess I'm just a centrist. Reading YouTube comments about how crazy women are and how they only want 6's, and watching video's of youtubers asking women on the street about questions involving with guys, it kept reinforcing my belief that most women are like this. Wait...are my female friends like this too?! They don't behave like this! I guess they are just exceptions such that I have a strong ability to filter out most women with "toxic feminitity". So I kept that thought aside. I keep feeding myself with confirmation bias. However, earlier this year, I got tired of watching the same redpill content, covering the same content over and over, so I stopped. I was still redpilled ... until the Roe V Wade.

That, combined with Depp vs Amber trial in which hearing feminists did see him as non-abusing debunking the myth that the trial was a blow to feminism, watching the YouTubers reacting to "Think Before You Sleep" dismantling a lot of wrong arguments, especially Vaush himself, talking to my female friends more about how they like to live in future (hint: they truly don't care about age 30 crap), all that weight lifted off my shoulders. I'm back to being a proud liberal, especially on social issues. There is no difference between men and women in terms of how they perceive and make difference, we have the same brain. The only differences between them is women have estrogen and men has testosterone, leading to having difference in sex organs, and average female brains being smaller, only because average women is overall smaller, proportionally the same as average men. All the other differences is because of the patriarchy. The toxic feminity that all the redpill compains about, is due to patriarchy, however still blaming feminism. One thing is clear: Toxic feminity does not equal feminism at all. Feminists help both women and men. Feminists are aware of men's issues, like the male loniness, because of that said patriarchy. Today, just graduated University, I live alone as a single life, ironically feeling the least lonely, knowing that getting a date isn't a game. Only reason why it's hard today is because we are busy these days, combined with today's age of what's happening. After listening to Justin Baldon's TED talk and introspecting myself about how patriarchy needs to be dismantled, I'm now a feminist who was an ex-redpill.

Title	I have an important question in this sub
Author	Interneth0e
Upvotes	20
Comments	39
Date	November 2, 2022 5:38 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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