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If it isn't already, please make this scientific article about how little looks matter for romantic success a part of the First Aid Kit!

Fit-Collection2908 · 2024-12-14T12:57:34+00:00

The article: https://datepsychology.com/male-attractiveness-and-sexual-partner-count/...

Fit-Collection2908

December 14, 2024

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Title	If it isn't already, please make this scientific article about how little looks matter for romantic success a part of the First Aid Kit!
Author	Fit-Collection2908
Upvotes	20
Comments	33
Date	December 14, 2024 12:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/1he2b9p/if_it_isnt_already_please_make_this_scientific/
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You may have misunderstood me. I am speaking within the context of the human species and saying that there being popular features does not mean beauty is not subjective, because the word doesn’t preclude that. Food preferences are also subjective — there are foods I love that others I know find extremely unappealing, and a smaller number of foods in the other direction — and there are foods/ingredients that are broadly popular.

The existence of more and less popular traits/combinations of traits tells us there’s an unequal distribution of preferences. That means that some people are going to have a larger pool of people who prefer their appearance. What it doesn’t mean is that everyone prefers or appreciates the more popular anything, nor that no one prefers or appreciates the least popular anything, and that is why it is subjective.

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I just don't like people in general. There's only one man I've met that I really like and enjoy spending time with (my cousin). Everyone else I just tolerate.

It's just a bit easier to deal with men because they are more friendly towards me and more likely to help me out, whereas no woman under the age of 50 will even speak to me and the women at my job tend to boss me around a lot and ask me to do stuff for them a lot but rarely do anything to help me. Plus, these women gossip a lot. Talk all kinds of shit about their so-called friends but are all "honey and sweetie" to their face. I'm sure a lot of men do this too, but I see it with women far more often.

Maybe it's just my area. I live in a rural area after all and most rural folks are pretty much the same. But there aren't really any big cities near me. There's one smaller city that's mostly just a glorified tourist town that has all the big city problems with few, if any, of the big city benefits.

[–]Emotional-Log12773 points 1 year ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I wonder if there could also be something of a feedback loop going on…? I only ask because there is some of this that I really identify with from when I was younger.

I was super insecure when I was in my late teens and early 20s. And because of that I just sort of perpetually assumed no one would like me and, at the time, just sort of defaulted to not liking much about anyone else either. Because I was on the outside, I wasn’t really in on any of the fun or jokes or warmth or anything. People didnt talk to me much. I was pretty intimidated by a lot of them, but also secretly a bit envious and lonely.

I had sort of an ah-ha moment when I ran into someone from school years later and I was friendly to him. He said “I’m surprised you are being so nice— in high school I sort of got the feeling that you didn’t like me”.

And I was so surprised. I thought I had been so much less than him— uglier, less popular, whatever— that he probably either hated me or didn’t know I existed. And the whole time he was thinking, “wow, this girl just doesn’t like me for some reason. Whatever.” So he avoided me. And I saw him avoid me and it just reinforced everything I had assumed about him.

I think when we feel insecure, we are less warm to those around us, and they notice and become less warm in return. And then we see that and go, “Yup. I called it.” And then it turns into this worsening loop.

I found that when I set out with the intention to discover things about people to truly like, and when I try to ditch the assumption that they won’t like me, things generally go a lot better. I mean, never perfect. There are still people who I would rather not spend a lot of time with. And I’m sure there are still some people who don’t like me. But overall, I like most people, and we get along well. It was just such a shift.

Anyways, sorry for the novel. Especially if it doesn’t apply to you. But reading some of what you were saying, it just felt really familiar to me.

Best of luck!!

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