Question for men who have been in a relationship with a redpilled woman what was your experience like?

bluemagex2517 · 2024-01-03T12:16:21+00:00

Is there redpilled women?

I know there are women who seek out redpilled men specifically. They're sort of aggressively quazi-trad-con women who are attracted to alpha douches. They are rare, but they do exist.

Then there are women who are into female dating strategy. FDS is, in my opinion, the women's equivalent to Red Pill. It mixes self help with tips on how to control a partner through emotional manipation. It objectifies and comodifies men by separating them into "low value men" vs "high value men." Etc.

But, is there a separate RedPill for women? What does it look like? Is it like: "you need to be an alpha woman, boss babe, to get high quality men?" Or is it like: "you need to conform to traditional feminine roles in order to attract high quality men?"

Witty_Fox_143 · 2024-01-03T12:26:58+00:00

RPW has a belief system that is vastly different, and much of it is being shut down as individuals with experience in cults are drawing parallels between RP and the NXIVM sex cults. The documentary series "The Vow" demonstrates how the same language and tactics were used. Given how it harmed women significantly, like breaking them down psychologically using tactics reminiscent of Nazi Germany, many individuals are leaving because they've come to understand what it truly was—they were essentially puppets manipulated by a puppet master. It's incredibly disheartening to witness good men having their legitimate needs exploited by others, all the while being unaware due to their belief in a unified brotherhood. Those profiting from the situation have no real intention of helping these men. RPW essentially functioned like DOS and was a system of slave training for RP men. "The Vow" offers a comprehensive explanation of these dynamics.

FactsOverFeelingssss · 2024-01-03T04:10:52+00:00

Good question. I’m curious about this too.

I’m also wondering what is a “victim” of the RP?

Grouchy_Toe2404 · 2024-01-16T01:52:27+00:00

I don't know if this answers your question, but to my shame, I did follow moderate RP content in the past.

I can't speak for my partners of those dark days, but I will try. I think they had a pretty easy time with me. See, if women want equal treatment, they will have to assert themselves daily. (Even now, in a loving relationship with a man, we have to point out bad habits, that come from patriarchal beliefs, to each other.)

This assertion can be a huge source of conflict. Many men wouldn't listen, a few would. Since I didn't speak up, we didn't have those conflicts. Each boyfriend existed in the relationship as he was raised. One relationship ended because he didn't want me to study, which crossed the line. The next was flat out abusive (luckily I wasn't deep into RP enough to normalize that), so I broke up quite early.

My change happened with the next guy. He wasn't controlling. In fact, after a few months, it looked like he didn't care at all. Funnily enough, that's what opened my eyes. I was crazy in love, and I believe he loved me too. But he had no clue how to express that, always hurting me without intending to.

I didn't want it to end, so I started looking for relationship advice and found John Gottman's work and it opened my eyes. There was actual science about my experience. I started to see patterns in my relationship I didn't see before. I tried to point them out to him but he couldn't see it or keep up during the time.

The same day we broke up, I was approached by a PUA. I didn't go out with him, but started to learn about them. I started seeing the extreme hate some men had for women.

A bit later, I fell in love with a woman. Since I wasn't dating any man, and I definetely wasn't in love with one, I had no reason to fool myself about the dynamics between men and women. I realized how pseudoscientific all my past views were and it went from there. I listened to takes that were actually science based. I learned.

The woman and I didn't end up together, and I fell in love with a man again. He cares about my experience, and I care about his.Things are looking up.

Title	Question for men who have been in a relationship with a redpilled woman what was your experience like?
Author	Possible-Shift249
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	January 3, 2024 12:57 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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