What are your thoughts on “the lightswitch effect”?

onlyforsex · 2021-06-17T03:14:20+00:00

Therefore the decisions she makes based on her reality may seem like total nonsense to a man (women are crazy, right?

Funny that he should say this since its common as hell for men to call all of his ex gfs "crazy" - huge red flag btw. Like i had to reread this cause i was sure at first that he was being sarcastic, but nope, zero self awareness as per usual - hence why they belong to this sad cult. If hes calling everyone crazy then he's revealing his gaslighting and own insanity to you.

Men do this just as often, why is this even a question? People get emotional when relationships end and they often end on a bad note. This isnt a gender thing, and good lord that post is sexist and toxic as fuck

msinclaire · 2021-06-17T02:14:46+00:00

I couldn’t read the article either, but I can guess that it means one day your hanging in with your relationship fighting the good fight, and the next day you’re absolutely done and walking out the door without a tear.

That happens to me when I’ve exhausted every avenue and idea I can think of to make things work and there quite simply is nothing left to be done. That’s when my switch flips.

This is more for me than for the relationship, as I must feel that I’ve exhausted every option before cutting bait.

zoemondo · 2021-06-17T13:50:54+00:00

Just my personal experience, but I've seen a lot of relationships/dating end when the guy doesn't understand that there's a problem and refuses to address it so she just leaves. It makes zero zense in his mind but that's because he doesn't understand that there was a problem until it was already too late.

knackeredeunuch · 2021-06-17T02:25:28+00:00

Okay read the whole thing.

Core issue seems to be around "what is love". And, via proxy, "what is faith/fidelity" and thus "what is infidelity".

There is a reason marriage vows are so... Thorough (til death do us part).

Agape means (among other things) literally "charity" or "generosity". Faith means literally (among other things) "trust" or "respect". Ie, "ye of little faith" and only for lack of faith can a marriage be disavowed.

So.

Yes, naturally light switch effect is this, basically. It's like... Literally... What 80% of the bible as what I've read (at least) is about hahaha.

It's not a sprint but a marathon. Want something that is gonna last, got to build it right. Can't blame honor amongst thieves if you're playing the same game.

I mean.

Seriously.

I had to endure 3 decades of 100 years of "love is a battlefield" type music and all of a sudden everybody actin cray like it's forgotten? Wtf!?!?!?!?

Edit why I gotta be the one to say that

ciopink · 2021-06-17T01:55:12+00:00

"Let me expand on that a little, and tie it into what we call Briffault's law."

It's all bs

unlivedbread · 2021-06-17T19:14:36+00:00

I've seen it happen to me, men and women. For me personally the excitement of the relationship wore off and I just didn't feel the same way. In my experience this is what happens to others. The excitement dies down and they realize they don't really like the person. So they leave

dm_if_you_femboy · 2021-06-17T20:22:00+00:00

It happened to me. 1 week before she was telling me she wanted to marry and yada yada. Week later just breaks up and tells me this relationship was just a whim and moves on to some guy that was slightly more exciting

Her words never matched up to reality, say one thing and her actions spoke otherwise. Maybe it was just her

knackeredeunuch · 2021-06-17T02:07:30+00:00

Geez.

Link doesn't work on mobile and I guess it's a unsearchable quarantined community.

Can't engage with an argument if you can't see it I guess.

Edit found alternate link

What are your thoughts on “the lightswitch effect”?

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Title	What are your thoughts on “the lightswitch effect”?
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Date	June 17, 2021 12:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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