Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?

Snoo32629 · 2020-07-21T23:58:24+00:00

A pickme will never be a good friend. Not in the way you are to her. Not in the way you expect a solid woman friendship would go. Notice how they only have time to talk to you when they had a fight with their man, or are single... i slowfade these women because to them I am only there when it's convenient for them. Also deep down they view you as competition. In my experience they're the type who thinks your standards are too high, who value dick above everything else. The way they talk/behave will change once a man is in the room and their very existence is merely to get a man. Even their attempts to self improve is not for themselves but to get more male attention.

Avoid at all costs.

arwenagon24999 · 2020-07-21T23:57:53+00:00

Distance yourself as much as you can. There's no way to fix them.

The one pickme "friend" I had once told me that I was "lucky" to be with a guy. She also claims that she's better friends with guys than girls and yet gets regularly ghosted by her guy friends and then accepts them when they come back. She "checks in" with me when she has a problem with her LVM boyfriend.

You'll be the punching bag for their emotionally overspent selves. Get out before it's too late.

manisfestationqueen · 2020-07-22T00:06:20+00:00

Drop her! I just ended a friendship this month with a person who acted similar. They have no self respect, so they don't respect you either. I rather be mean and feel bad about it once, than feel like an idiot for being used repeatedly.

sadcello · 2020-07-22T06:04:30+00:00

Pickmes are male worshippers, they'll always choose a male before you, so yes, they're definitely not a good friend. I always put a safe distance with them until they change, so if they don't change for the better, I can easily dump them.

DunRuther · 2020-07-22T00:20:45+00:00

I would definitely dump her as a friend. I hate to say that, because female friendships are important, but if she’s getting mad at you for spilling your feelings, she’s not really a friend to begin with.

To answer your title question: Not a friend, but my boss. I don’t know her very well even though I’ve worked for her for two years and known her for 8, because she’s very private. But she seems like an extreme Pickme. I work in a group of 25 or so people in an office (which is part of a company with 350 people at our location). Of the 25 people, 21 are men. She is always bubbly and says “hi! Good morning!” when she sees the men, always giggling and smiling. But she barely speaks to me and the other two women. Both of the other women also work for her, as well as two men and she obviously favors the men and gives them the better work assignments.

NessaMonsta17 · 2020-07-22T03:42:46+00:00

Omg, lol. I have a pickmiesha friend. And yes she comes to me everytime she has trouble with love and her son. She is a coworker. She calls me her best friend but really I'm like a free therapist always lifting her up. And she is gets super jealous when guys show me attention or anyone. She will say "and what about me?" or a guy smells a perfume "oh that's me" and a bunch of shit like that. In the beginning I would offer to hang out or do favors cause she was always in a crisis but I soon realize she was just using me to feel better about her life. She is desperate for a man and every man she dates, she plans to move with him and by the end of the month, they break things off. She is so aggressive and desperate, that men see easy sex and then they see crazy. I try to just be nice and sympathize but I feel like I pity her and that since she is my coworker I don't want to cause a stir. But I don't bother hanging out with her at work. Basical know that as soon as she gets a man, she will be out of my life. Till then she is a mess. And I'm just chilling.

I remember one time I made an invite to watch a movie but then she took my idea and suggested to her date this same plan. And told me about it a few days later.. Forgetting that I'm the reason for the idea. I was livid because I had another ahole best friend do this to me. Same shit, I was the free therapist and then she gotta a bf and I was no longer good enough. But then crisis arises and they are hitting up my line. She literally never reciprocated. And that hurt my soul cause I thought we were real best friends and it turn out she could give two shits about me. So when this new friend did it, I thought to myself "ohh your one of those."

I hate pickmieshas now.

CeruleanStarlite · 2020-07-22T03:15:55+00:00

I honest to god feel like I wrote this post. Last month I cut my best friend of 20 years out of my life because of this shit. Did it hurt? Yeah, at first. Now I hardly ever stress about anything and I don't feel the need to be running to the phone to help her every whim, to give advice and support when her husband is being a porn sick LVM just for her to turn around and forgive him for the thousandth time. No thanks!

ethnicallyabiguous · 2020-07-22T16:01:11+00:00

I just cut out a pickmeisha friend this past month. I had conversations with her about things she did that hurt me. She supposedly understood, but would continue to do those things later. The friendship was relatively new; so I left her the same way I would a LVM and just stopped responding.

2020-07-23T14:36:35+00:00

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Title	Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?
Author	Snoo32629
Upvotes	103
Comments	15
Date	July 21, 2020 8:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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