I’m pretty close acquaintances with a lot of my coworkers and, naturally, kids and personal lives keep coming up. They’ve found out I am childfree and that I haven’t dated for 8 months. They are stunned, shocked, and think I’m insane for having high standards so high I haven’t had a SO in so long. They can’t wrap their heads around the fact my life doesn’t revolve around men and children even though these ladies are also in their 20’s. They can’t believe I’m not settling to fill the “void” in my life that “only men” can fill.

Yet, they tell me several horror stories a day about their NV/LVM boyfriends and husbands they settled for. They also tell me about the crap their kids pull and how limited their lives are because their partners don’t help with the kids. Nah, sis.

Ladies, being single is ALWAYS better than dealing with men who add no value to your life. NEVER settle, even when the pick-mes gang up on you. Stay strong, follow the handbook, and keep your standards sky high so you can snatch the HVM you deserve and avoid the NV/LV scrotes.