I’ve been dating someone since last fall, a few months before the virus started.

In short, the relationship isn’t progressing. I know he really likes me, so it puzzles me. He wants to spend all his time with me, I’ve met his closest friend, he talks with his family about me, He got me a great birthday gift. I notice small things, like he’ll pick up things he knows I really like when he’s grocery shopping. He’ll go out of his way to help me when I need it, like helping me build furniture. I’ve never paid for a date, and last week he even treated one of my best friends to a birthday dinner/drinks even though I tried to pay (we’ve all spent a lot of time together so she invited him).

So, I am getting several signs that he IS really into me. It’s not like I’m doing the pursuing and I’ve never questioned whether he wants me in his life for the foreseeable future.

But here is the flip side. I don’t know if he sees me as a “fun for now” girlfriend. I have no clue if he sees a long-term future with me, and I have a feeling he doesn’t. It seems like he is just taking things day by day.. which I feel is fine in the first few months of dating someone, but we are past that point. Even though I’ve met his best friend, I haven’t met any others. It seems like he doesn’t really have an interest in introducing me to them, because they have invited me to outings but my boyfriend just won’t follow through on the plans. He’ll completely skip out on them, and then it’s just us. I haven’t met any of his family, even though they are pretty much begging to meet me at this point. He’s going on a guys trip to Florida in November, and even though I’m planning to take a trip with my friends too I’m kind of sad we don’t have any fun plans like that for just the two of us coming up.

He never talks about the future beyond a few months from now. He hasn’t expressed that he wants or sees me in his future. I just don’t know how he can show me how much he likes me in some ways, and then make the relationship feel completely casual in other ways.

So here is the thing. I know this is unacceptable. I’m know I’m not happy continuing a relationship like this. I just don’t know how to handle it.

Do I go to him with the intent of opening up a conversation about the lack of progression, or do I completely cut my losses here and break up with him? Is there another course of action?