It's a guideline for making sure we are standing in our power and that we pick a partner who values that we feel empowered and loves us not for our performative behavior, but for our actual personalities, with all their boundaries and walls. FDS teaches us to put ourselves first, for so many women who have put their partners first - it's teaching us a healthier way to approach life so that we are satisfied, because we understand that we are first and foremost accountable for ourselves and our quality of life is our responsibility, no one else's.

I don't care what anybody thinks - this is healthy for both the male and female. It is a framework for making sure we are empowered, and pick partners that appreciate our confidence. In a way the FDS manual helps out HVM as it teaches our brains how to value men who respect our boundaries, to go slow to ensure feelings are genuine and there is no love bombing, and in this way we will be focused on the personalities rather than any dumb games anyone might be playing.

It's 'How to be in a healthy relationship with yourself 101' and one of the perks happens to be that you will naturally attract people who have a health relationship with themselves too. It's the cherry on top, not the whole pie.

Edit: Thank You so much for the awards!!! So dope, I appreciate it ladies ❤️