So, I employed the FDS rules, and sidestepped a LVM.

I met this dude a couple of times, socially. I thought we clicked, but wanted to air him out a little, didn't tell him I liked him or give anything away.

So, after we'd met a few times, he asked for my number. I thought OK, still played it cool. He was thirsty AF after we'd had a night out, the night he asked for my number, and was texting me after I'd left the event and gone home, saying he wanted to come to mine and fuck. I said no, but he could come to my work's Xmas party, which would require a financial investment for a ticket. He was initially up for it, kept messaging that he was looking forward to it, and could we exchange some pictures. I said no to the pictures, said I'd much rather leave things to imagination and do an old fashioned reveal live.

Well, he was asking if we'd be official, I said no to that too. I honestly don't want official or exclusivity, I've not long separated from my husband, so I'm not interested in running into another relationship.

Now, he can't make the party, surprise surprise. I'm convinced because I wasn't giving in to what he wanted. If I'd fucked him right when he wanted, I'd have been ghosted after, I'm sure. If I'd sent pictures, that probably would've been worse. Post nut clarity and all that.

But once he realised he'd have to make an effort, spend some cash and impress me, it was too much effort.

Bullet. Dodged.

Thank you for this sub, and for helping me, and us all, not get with scrubs.

Queens for the win!!

Edit: Because I can't be bothered with answering all the DMs I'm getting. To lurking moids, meeting someone socially, as in, out and about, with a group, IS NOT A DATE. The opportunity for a first date was to come to the party, as my +1. He didn't even so much as buy me a drink on the couple of occasions we met (at a group event) to register interest.

All of us here are worth so, so much more than a 3am booty call when you're drunk and horny, because you're drunk. Begone!