How often should he be texting you when you're initially dating, before becoming official?

2340000 · 2020-07-31T00:10:46+00:00

Is it a red flag to you? Has he done this before? How long have you been dating?

I think communication should be continuous unless life demands otherwise (which is seldom). And even then, he should send a text or telephone you and explain why he'll be MIA... My personal rule (that I also abide by) is if you sent a text at 5:43 p.m. Tuesday. He needs to respond by 5:43 p.m. Wednesday🤷

If you're anxious about his communication, that's a red flag and you need to stop seeing him. Our intuition tells us more than you realize...

thighsmatch · 2020-07-31T00:36:14+00:00

I struggle with this a little. I am very passive and almost never initiate text conversations with men before we are official, but that also has made me susceptible to lovebombers in the past. I do think going beyond 24 hours is a bit strange in the early phases of dating, and I would not like that. But that is just my personal preference.

_Atalanta_ · 2020-07-31T15:47:58+00:00

I don’t think it is the frequency of texts, but the quality of the content. Also it is his behaviour that matters and not his words. If he is very straightforward and arranges a date in advance in a few texts and then is quiet for say, two days, but then texts to confirm on the day of the date, I think this is better than small-talk texts all day every day that lead nowhere 🤔

muricaxoxo · 2020-07-31T00:08:21+00:00

Yes it is, dtich him. If he's not putting in the effort to talk to you now then he will never. The only circumstance where it's OK is if he's working or something but it's usually courteous to say "hey I'm busy today I won't be texting a lot".

Allaboutb1 · 2020-08-01T11:08:18+00:00

Quality and consistency of communication are key I think. Texting is the lowest-effort form of communication, so I would tend to see the absence of texting as an absence of effort.

Title	How often should he be texting you when you're initially dating, before becoming official?
Author	Snoo32629
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Date	July 30, 2020 11:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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