I have been seeing this guy I met on OLD for 4 months now. We got on so well, but you know how the story goes. Soon he started doing little things that at first were so small you were sure it was a one off, or you’d just imagined it, or he was cranky. It’s so easy to do. But then of course they became bigger and bigger. I realised everything always had to be on his terms. If I refused to do things how he wanted, he would punish me by ignoring me. His whole attitude was the he was an asshole “take it or leave it!” Completely uninterested in examining his behaviours, growing or evolving.

I had been feeling emotionally manipulated for a while now, and just generally mistreated. He took his moods out on me. I constantly felt like I was walking on eggshells.

On Saturday I had enough and told him I needed to speak to him. He said he was busy, so I asked when he’d be free. He said he didn’t know and to leave him alone because he didn’t feel like talking about this. So I told him if he couldn’t talk to me now, we had nothing else to talk about, ever. And the lil bitch blocked me instead of replying.

I know ideally I should have left at the first sign, but it really does sneak up on you. I’m just so relieved it is over and ready to learn from this and keep moving forward. Please be gentle, I’m still feeling very fragile from this ordeal.

E: typo