In long distance, how do I set expectations ?

goatismycopilot · 2020-01-26T22:59:42+00:00

Would it not make more sense to break up with him and local for a locally based partner who does meet your relationship needs rather than a long distance partner who does not?

TheLastUBender · 2020-01-26T23:30:21+00:00

No strategy here, just advice: LDRs only work if both parties want to call the other person at the end of the day - to share their thoughts, worries and just hang out. If one person doesn't, that's a death sentence. Been in two longish LDRs. Wasn't excited to call guy 1 (entirely my issue), the 2nd guy and myself *always* wanted to make time for each other. That's why it became a non-LDR. Don't prolong the problem, split up with him.

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-01-26T22:47:57+00:00

Why do you want him?

2020-01-26T22:54:10+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/el2aeb/lets_talk_about_ldrs/

ItsAnonCat · 2020-01-27T01:01:31+00:00

Hint: don’t do LDR unless he has the financial means to make LDR not a thing quickly. This can mean different things for different people. Typically those LDR has been a waste of time and even then I wouldn’t commit to anyone in a LDR.

quaintlyspoken · 2020-01-26T23:53:30+00:00

If he's into you there will be nothing that stops him from contacting you: texting, talking, video,seeing you in person.

He will make time for you even on his busiest of days, think of you first thing in the morning to greet you seconds later and call you by night till you fall asleep. There is nothing that will stop him.

Do not chase that is not your part in the dance.

This man doesn't seem into you at all. Your happiness is not his priority. He's breadcrumbing you. Find a man who loves you queen.

sweatydeath · 2020-02-09T17:18:58+00:00

IF you have to ask him to call he's already into someone/something else. It's over. Leave. He's not showing any interest for a reason: He's not interested in you. Don't stay around to be his leftovers...

Parking-Act · 2020-01-27T00:21:09+00:00

Don't fo ldrs

2020-01-27T09:22:19+00:00

Ok so this is pickmeisha revealing but I got out of a LDR situationship (I know): but you need to stop constantly contacting him while you figure this out. The concept of pursuit matters even in this case.

Go to the LDR subreddit—people are demonstrating high value such as sending their girl food from across the country via order when sick and putting cute messages in there...

Another thing I’ve read is he needs to be making moves—you two have a time table to close the gap when exclusive.

A lot of people are going to say this LDR thing isn’t a good idea.

You need to keep your options open and keep working toward your personal goals, too.

Title	In long distance, how do I set expectations ?
Author	ishaparo9
Upvotes	14
Comments	19
Date	January 26, 2020 6:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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