Hi girls, I even feel stupid for asking this question but please hear me out.

Background; - We broke up like 2-3 months ago, still living together (lease until March, also I have a cat and it’s hard to find a place that accepts them). We mostly ignored eachother lately, which was good. - I have a pursuer, a handsome guy I met almost right after we broke up. This guy knows the whole situation and still courts me, which is nice. I still don’t trust men though so I’m vary.

The pursuer came up to my city for a date, which was absolutely lovely. We have good chemistry and banter and after a couple of drinks he kissed my neck and left a tiny little mark saying “do you think he’ll be mad?” My response was “definitely, do another one!”. It was fun.

Yesterday I was at the gym, ex was there and he sent a friend to come up to me and look at my neck. I found it funny but played along.

After the gym, two friends came over to drop off my pet carrier. I asked my ex if that was ok, he said yea, on a very aggressive tone. I even clarified and he seemed even angrier.

After my friends left, I was chatting to mama.

ACTUAL BIT THAT IS RELEVANT: He knocked on my door and after I opened, he was laying into me, raising his voice that I deceived him, that he misunderstood and he wasn’t expecting people coming over.

I told him that I asked him straight and he said yes. That he was the one who misunderstood and that is his responsibility, not mine. He kept yelling so I closed the door of MY ROOM. He swung it open, hurting me in the process, saying that I am to never dare close a door in his face ever again. He was literally in the way and I was actually so scared. My mom (on the phone, she lives in a different country) kept yelling at me to call the police.

He finally left me but I am still shaken. I don’t know if it could constitute as harassment or not. I know I need to move but it’s just not possible now. At least I am going home for the whole holiday period...

Please give me any tips and pointers you can think of, if you would like. I am just a bit lost.