Never feel bad for ghosting.

I don't care what you've heard, or what kind of Reddit garbage you've read instructing you to just "cOmMuNiCaTe". I know some people will disagree with me, and I'm willing to hear your thoughts.

If someone is blatantly disrespecting you, they know exactly what they are doing. You do not need to "communicate" or give them an explanation before you cut all ties with them.

When people try to test our boundaries and emotions, they do not deserve a minute more of our precious time. Sure, a one-off might be possible, but if it occurs more than once, a pattern is established and ties need to be severed.

Sure, some people call ghosting psychologically cruel but its warranted when people cross our boundaries, disrespect us, and make us feel lesser than.

A personal anecdote of mine is finally ghosting a textbook narcissist who did everything in his power to reduce me to nothing. Negging, gaslighting, and breadcrumbing were all part of his slimy package. Everything he did was a power play to get under my skin and keep me tangled up in his web of deceit.

The last straw is when he implied I was "fat", "uneducated", and "ugly" and tried to triangulate me with "models" he had the pleasure of being with. Mind you, I am extremely fit, working on my third diploma/degree, and certainly not ugly. Saying these things, coupled with making me feel like a human fleshlight were his sinister way of breaking me down and becoming a victim.

Guess what? I suddenly ceased all contact with him. He tried to reach out twice in two consecutive days totally disregarding his comments and his treatment of me. He tried to carry on the conversation like nothing was wrong, and his behavior was acceptable. All he deserves is to be left on "seen" because I highly doubt he is that socially inept to realize the error of his ways. I already feel so much better.

Ridding of our lives of toxic energy and people in this fashion is the way to go. This ensures we stay HV and attract HV people around us.