“Not All Men”

It infuriates me when I read this statement. It infuriates me when the queens who post on here are DMed “NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS”. It’s a “defensive” statement proposed by men. It’s a “protective” statement spoken by pick-me women. It’s true, not all men are. But all men are capable of it. All men are capable of rape. All men are capable of abuse. All men are capable of watching porn. All men are capable of being human scum.

No matter how many precautions we take, how carefully we vet, there is always the possibility of encountering a man who does one or all of the above. As women, we owe it to ourselves to be careful, to vet thoroughly, and to be mindful of the situations we put ourselves in because we live in a world where access to these subs is not restricted. A truly grotesque narcissist can read through FDS and pick out what women are looking for and portray these traits until we are head over heels and then they can let their mask slip and begin the abuse. NEVER. STOP. VETTING.

When a man or a woman says “Not All Men” what they are really trying to do is to lower our guard. To make us more susceptible to abuse by men. The goal is to change our mentality, because if instead of “any man is capable of being a rapist” we say “not all men are rapists” then we switch over to giving men the benefit of the doubt. We become vulnerable to the predatory men out there. Which is exactly what they want.

If they truly believed that “Not all men are like this” then they would call out those who are. They would show us WITH ACTIONS, that in fact not all men are scum. They would warn the girl that their creep friend is trying to date rape her. They would cease contact with the creep that keeps hitting on their girlfriend instead of turning a blind eye because “he’s just joking” or “he’s just drunk”. There would be less crime against women because men themselves would act against predatory men. But they don’t. Or at least very few do. The very few that don’t spend their time on reddit screaming that “NOT ALL MEN!!!!” Or DMing women who are sharing their abuse horror story and being vulnerable online that “NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS OH BUT ALSO HERE’S A PICTURE OF MUH DICK”

It’s true. Not all men are deprived porn sick rapist pedophiles, but it’s our job to keep ourselves safe and each other safe and assume they are until proven otherwise. All men are capable of depravity. Stay safe out there ladies ❤️ never stop vetting and never stop learning how to spot red flags.