So this is a little rant, but also a lesson about having Pickmeisha in your life and how it can be damaging to your own sanity as a HVW.

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I met my friend "A" around 11 years ago. I was just out of an abusive relationship, she never even had a guy interested in her before. She was basically the opposite of me, in nearly every aspect, but we got along extremely well and I kind of saw her as my own sister. I tried to get her to go out more often, encouraged her in every possible way and over time I saw her open up a bit more, basically taking care of herself more and more, mentally and physically.

Then shortly after I started dating my husband, A started dating a guy, "C".

So I knew right away that C was not a good person. He seemed to take me as some kind of enemy, without any reason. He was unkempt, short, weak and overall unattractive. A wasn't in love with him, but she wanted a boyfriend and he was the first one she "secured", so she went with it. When my husband met C, he told me that this guy is going to be a horrible cheater and liar and that my friend deserved better. Turns out, my husband was right.

So basically C cheated on A alot and lied about literally everything. He heavily disliked me, because I called him out on his bullshit and tried to keep A from contacting me. I was always honest with A, but she wasn't ready to leave him, eventhough she saw that I was right.

One day a girl told A that she had sex with C and that C didn't mention having a gf. She apologized for everything and seemed to be sincere. A didn't believe her first, but then one of C's friends told her drunkly that he saw C making out with some girls, just when A couldn't be around. I supported my friend, obviously and we reached out to some of the girls and apparently C had sex with at least 6 of them, kissing more than 10 on several parties. It was crystal-clear that C was that piece of shit that I thought he is and A finally broke up with him.

For 2 weeks I let her move in with me and my husband to calm down. C was basically camping outside of her house, something I predicted, so she was safe with me.

After 2 weeks, she went back home. The same day she apparently got back together with C. I honestly didn't see this coming, since I built her up for 2 weeks, she seemed to be over C and everything he did! It hurt me alot. I was disappointed in my friend and angry at this POS who clearly had her in his hands, playing her like a little doll.

From that moment on, A tried to sweettalk her POS bf to me. I told her, that I don't want to hear ANYTHING about C, but she continued. I was tired to hold back the negative things I had to say, because I knew, that she was not going to listen to me. When I invited her to my wedding and explicitly told her that I will not have her bf there, she got mad at me.

I wrote her that I want her to succeed in life, to be able to be happy without a man and especially a POS like C and that I can't keep the contact, because her constant talking about C drains me emotionally (and I was going through a rough time myself).

We haven't talked for roughly 3,5 years.

A couple of days after I gave birth to my son, I had a message in my inbox. It was A, congratulating me on my first baby, asking me how I've been. I have to be honest, I was happy to hear from her.

So as the days go by, we talk to each other again, sharing some funny stories about our lives and all that. At one point, A tells me that C cheated on her, again. Just days ago. She broke up with him.

I couldn't help but get invested in this again. I just had a baby and my hormones were going crazy, so I felt like I had to offer support to my friend.

So A comes to visit me and my husband, once again. She planned on only staying for 3 days, but after the first day, it was clear that she had to leave.

My husband told me that she tried to flirt with him and making sexual comments towards him, while I was nursing the baby and they prepared dinner. Apparently A tried to "seduce" my husband as some kind of revenge for the cheating of C. She apologized and all that, but I ignored her. Then she was back in a relationship with C and obviously blocked on every type of messaging service I have. The door is absolutely closed for her.

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I have learned my lesson. I am still disappointed, especially because I let her back into my life like that. I should've been more cautious! So let this be a lesson to you, too. If a Pickme-friend suddenly tries to go back into your life, check her motives thouroughly!