So my HVM husband has a sister. Let’s call her Aisha for simplicity’s sake, even though that’s not her name. Aisha is 22, beautiful, smart, stylish, kind, and a modestly successful actress. Unfortunately, she also has strong pickme tendencies when it comes to men.

Up until recently, she was engaged to a her first real boyfriend, a total NVM who, when they were younger, got issued a restraining order protecting her from him by the police (because he essentially punched a wall during an argument, in public). I was very happy for her when she broke it off, but I recently found out the only reason why she broke that engagement was to pursue another LVM.

This one is a player with a girlfriend. He flirted with Aisha when she was engaged, and turned her head with the usual cliches (“my girlfriend doesn’t understand me, not like you,” “I’m leaving her anyway, the relationship is basically over,” “we’re destined to be together,” etc etc ad nauseam) They made a plan: they would both leave their SOs and be with each other—only he promptly reconciled with his girlfriend as soon as she broke her engagement off. She now claims she wants to be his “friend” and keep him in her life without ulterior movies. 🙄

Aisha and I are friendly but not close, and I have no idea how to communicate my utter horror and disappointment at this development without overstepping the bounds of our relationship. My husband, who is close to her, is also very worried LVM #2 is going to break her heart, and he is going to try to persuade her to not to waste time on this scrote, but he doesn’t know what to do either. And honestly, the scrote is not the main problem. He will go away eventually when he runs out of narcissistic supply. The problem is her standards.

My SIL is smart and interested in self-improvement. I think I have a chance to get through to her if I approach her in the right way, with the right resources. Do any sisters here have good book recommendations, saved posts, or articles that helped you when you were starting your level up? Should I show her FDS (I would obviously delete this posts first if I did, for both our privacy)? It hurts me to see her throw her life away when she deserves so much more. But if you all think I should let her learn on her own, I will.