I once knew a woman whose dentist would provide free dental work in exchange for the opportunity to clean her house and serve at cocktail parties for her and a few girlfriends (not here to discuss how messy that was of him professionally). It was encouraged to request that he do any domestic shit and keep those cocktails and appies coming. He wasn't meant to be a part of the party or to participate in any conversations; just make that house spic and span, serve the women without question then quietly leave.

I wanted one of these free servants. Sadly, my own dentist had expressed no interest in doing my laundry so I thought I'd hunt for one elsewhere. Here's the thing - the keyword you have to use when looking for some guy to clean your house, iron your clothes, serve you food, not be real chatty about it and leave without expectation? HUMILIATION.

That's right. This very small sampling of the pickme bullshit that's expected of women is largely recognized by men as a HUMILIATION and viewed as a HUMILIATION kink when they do it.

We've been so entirely hoodwinked that we don't even recognize the abasement of ourselves and our gender until we see a sister barking while being pissed on in porn. We all have work to do, a lifetime of degrading expectations to rise above and sisters to support. Don't humiliate yourself for dick. Dick is actually really difficult to avoid; no cause at all to humiliate yourself for it.