As Queens leveling up for 2020 I wanted to talk about the power of self dates. One of the things PickMeisha does is wait for a man if not the man to come along and do the things she wants or says things like "when x happens then I'll do this". Queens know the time is now, if we want something we can go do it ourselves and even times have a better experience alone otherwise. It can be scary at first but becomes empowering realizing that the ultimate love is the one you give yourself and MUST before a man.

Whether you're single or in a relationship always make sure you are treating YOURSELF as the first soulmate and love of your life. If you're single its an amazing opportunity to get to know yourself and what you like/dislike so you can be a more well rounded person. If you're dating or in a ltr/marriage you get to know yourself in a different way, but you must always be aware of the balance and loving yourself 51% more as they say.

I personally keep lists of ideas and then it also works because when I do want to hang out with someone too that's the beauty of it if I want company I can but if not that's ok too. It's also about being confident and comfortable in your own skin which is very attractive but first and foremost for you.

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My regrets have always been not doing things I wanted bc I didn't want to go alone. I don't want to experience life this way. Ever since I started doing this I have had some amazing times such as going to pride alone, the movies, restaurants I want to try, shops, parks, museums, touristy things in my city, etc. It's been so much fun and you never know who you will meet. Take stock of your current comfort zone and just push the boundaries a little.

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For me going to the movies is easy alone because you don't have to talk to anyone but restaurants where I'm just sitting there talking to the staff etc. were so awkward at first, now it's getting better and I'm learning to enjoy myself. This is in addition to being taken out! And it also helps if you are stuck on one person and want to start feeling like you're getting a roster but aren't yet for whatever reason. You literally are busy because you are courting yourself. I also do things like groupons for beauty treatments, meetup, learning new things all the time, reading, general self improvement. Lets make 2020 our best year ever!

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