Teasing from men

kaoutanu · 2019-12-19T22:09:33+00:00

If they wont stop, and the other people present won't call them out on it, stop hanging around with that group of people, and tell them why. Next time they invite you over, say "No thanks. X and Y are really rude to me. As you can imagine, that's not a good time for me".

You'll hear every excuse in the book, like that's just how they are, it's really your fault for getting offended, and other nonsense. Don't JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain). Just say No and keep repeating it.

If doesn't matter if they're family or neighbours or whatever. Give your time and friendship to people who elevate and inspire you.

PurblWasp · 2019-12-19T21:03:58+00:00

This happened to me sometimes, not anymore. It's the right thing not to visit these people anymore. I do not interact with men- outright ignore them and distance myself from them now, standing up for myself. I tell them it is not okay to do dumb shit and I will straight up walk away from them and the event- if I have to- if they do not respect me. I mean c'mon, mimicking you? Childish as fuck. These men aren't your friends.

I do believe that them being losers might contribute to this kind of behavior though.

aladywhoprograms · 2019-12-19T21:20:27+00:00

Is there a way you can avoid them socially in the future?

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2019-12-19T22:01:34+00:00

They’re jealous of you, and most likely porn sick and infantilized.

cassabell1894 · 2019-12-19T20:59:23+00:00

Ignore or agree and amplify for future dealings, and I wouldn't attend another family meeting there either as their family won't even set basic standards for how female guests get treated.

Your instincts are probably right on the money about being targeted for having a career when one of thrm doesn't have a job and lives with mommy. But it could also be a little part of you that is afraid of teasing and social embarrassment? Maybe they're poking you there because it's your one soft spot.

Heard of Emersion Therapy? Practice emersing yourself in situations like this and you can also have friends practice with you and actually play it as a game. You'll learn to associate the interaction with enjoyment/safe feelings and the childish game will likely be non threatening to when/if another person falls into your life who tries to use it on you.

Saitschik · 2019-12-20T01:52:58+00:00

Low IQ males who try to get the groups attention are always thirsty for laughs of other dumb people and approval.

If they can make others feel uncomfortable, they are proud of themselves and feel dominant. It is extremely cringe.

You could just say that you are not interested in having dinner with bullies and not attending or leaving the table.

I have done this once and suddenly the people were bending over backwards to show me that they are not bad people, apologized and tried to win my approval back.

It is not about you, it is about them, believe me. If they pull the "too sensitive" card just tell them they are too mean and ignorant.

extraacct1234 · 2019-12-19T20:53:35+00:00

How to deal? Rip their balls off emotionally.

Why are they doing this? Like you said, they are threatened by you. They know they could never get with you and are bitter so they make fun of you and try to bring you down.

MyGilleyCat · 2019-12-19T22:12:42+00:00

You seem to be on the money with your analysis. They are trying to bring you down to their level by getting a rise out of you, making you act out prove to themselves youre not above them. Be above them. Your already doing what you need to do, getting your degree moving up. Keep it up.

Dont engage that's what they want, they dont affect you and there is no tell off or comeback that would shut them down, what really hurts them is you being you, succeeding and being out of their league. Dont kneel so they can slap you, walk by.

BDizzy18 · 2019-12-19T22:23:31+00:00

These mongoloids are in their thirties and acting like this? You know you've failed spectacularly as a parent when your thirty year-old son still acts like he's ten. Is this a situation where you knew each other as children and you were the neighbor girl? That could contribute; being put back into a situation or place that reminds one of childhood, around people from childhood, can cause anyone to act a bit high-spirited and immature (mostly men though). I am typically all for civility but sometimes there are exceptions, and in this case if you knew each other as children that should help excuse you if anyone else overhears.

The next time you see them together, just say something along the lines of "Oh, it's you two again. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised, it's not like either of you have anything else to do, is it? Kyle, you're still at your dead-end job with so-and-so? And Ben, still unemployed and living with mommy? How wonderful. Well, I guess we're all caught up then, if you'll excuse me." Laugh politely and walk away, then cease to acknowledge their existence. If they have the audacity to interrupt your conversation with someone else again, which is shockingly rude, pause in what you are saying and look around at them with your eyebrows slightly raised, as if you're rather astonished. Then return your attention to the other person and say "I'm sorry, I was distracted by their bizarre behavior. It is so kind of [host's name] to invite them so that they feel included too." Say "feel included too" in an exaggerated, sympathetic tone to make it clear that you are suggesting that they are mentally impaired, which they clearly are. Then continue ceasing to acknowledge their existence.

This will draw the attention of others to their strange and age-inappropriate behavior, which will at least make them aware if they weren't already but might also spur them to say something. Sometimes people are bothered by the way someone is acting but won't say anything because they aren't sure how you feel about it. By making it clear that you find their actions distasteful, you are giving the green light to anyone that has secretly been longing to take them to task. Good luck!

understatedalways · 2019-12-19T22:11:21+00:00

You need to completely obliterate them with witty comebacks. This is what I do, and it hurts them so much that they go back into their hidey holes. Why should you, a queen, care what these people have to say? Show them you don’t.

Edit: If you PM me by the way, I can help you with comebacks to obliterate their spirit and make them stfu.

cassabell1894 · 2019-12-20T00:12:18+00:00

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HeroForHire369 · 2019-12-19T23:45:48+00:00

Guys in their early thirties mimicking the behavior of preschool children. Are men okay?

If it's of any solace to you, they probably actually have more disdain for themselves than they do for you. To accomplish nothing after being on this planet for over three decades...

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Title	Teasing from men
Author	cassabell1894
Upvotes	51
Comments	30
Date	December 19, 2019 8:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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