The tinder swindler documentary 2022 on netflix: sex pozzy culture needs to end because it only hurts women

ewokblubber · 2022-02-06T13:46:30+00:00

I watched this because a friend recommended it to me, and honestly, the thing that struck me most was how intelligently this guy picked a certain 'type' of woman.

All of these women were well-off, educated, intelligent, and some even had good boundaries. One of his victims literally rejected him romantically.

The one thing they all had in common was that they were around a certain socio-economic crowd a lot, but weren't necessarily part of it just yet. They were moving up in their careers and a few years away from making the kind of money their friends were already making. They were upper-middle-class women on their way to becoming truly rich.

That made it both plausible that a billionaire would be genuinely interested in them (after all, they HAD the education, the kind of job, the kind of lifestyle that is typical in such circles and regularly met people with that kind of money) but still gave him the allure of being 'special' because of his money. I don't think these girls were gold-diggers: gold-diggers wouldn't pay any man a cent, whereas these women obviously paid him quite a lot of money. Rather, he very intelligently targeted women for whom he represented a kind of social acceptance: the woman on her way to becoming 'new money' who was now accepted by the truly rich crowd because she had a friend/partner who was 'old money'.

Honestly, watching this really taught me how intelligently certain men can perceive markers of socio-economic status in women. The handbag that is expensive, but not Hermes. The fact that her coat and shoes might be designer, but her jeans are from Zara. The fact that she goes to expensive restaurants, but rather for lunch than for the more expensive dinner. That her hair is done by a very expensive hairdresser, but not dyed in such a way that she would have to go back- and pay- every month. The fact that she hangs around fancy hotels, but feels the need to take pictures of everything because it still feels 'special'. He really was able to spot that precise type of woman that was just on the cusp of true success and wanted desperately to be accepted by the it-crowd. Accordingly, these women were eager to pretend to be part of that crowd, pretend that a few thousand dollars were already just 'coffee money' for them, rather than acknowledge that that's just not the case at that point in their lives.

It really opened my eyes on how nuanced some men's perception of certain 'types' of women is. This old adage that men don't see whether your shoes are expensive or your manicure has grown out doesn't hold true for a certain type of man, and it's important to be aware that certain aspects of your life might be plainly visible to abusers and predators. Don't fall into the trap of believing that people perceive you exactly the way you want to perceived. Stand strong in your truth, your background, your true sense of self. That way, you can't be manipulated with it.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-02-06T16:24:18+00:00

Oh…. I was expecting him to look like a Chad …..

Muffcakelord · 2022-02-06T16:04:39+00:00

I absolutely loved this dokumentary. Not only did it tell an insane story, the guy actually brought the lesson that mindset is everything as long as you're willing to pay with anything and everything of your pride, self respect, morals and so on. When he "lost" at the end, he still stuck to the last victim that ended up scamming him back and seemed almost like he was bragging about being on the streets and eating at "1 star" restaurants/hostels. He called himself "the homeless king" and it cracked me up. Even after jail which was for only a few months every time, he just came back stronger every time and continued to earn insane amounts of money purely from scams anf other crimes. The only losers in the story was somehow the victims of his scams, even though that shouldn't even be possible if there's any justice in the world. Apparently there simply isn't as long as you travel a bit while scamming, and as long as you pick victims that the system won't care too much about, like middle class people and women.

Another point i loved is how he consistently said "every action has a reaction" directly after HE made a massively evil step. This is a thing all narcissistic abusers say one way or another even if it makes no sense to speak of karma or consequences directly after having done something bad.

I feel terrible for the women. He ruined lives and noone paid these women back apparently, but there's also so much to learn from this doumentary. Like; never give a man money, especially if he's your boyfriend. And always adapt to any situation to the best of your power. Be proud of who you are and people will have to bend to you rather than the other way around. And finally; never talk to an abuser or scam artist as if you were real and true people. Hold the cards close and scam them back if possible rather than trying to confront them, since it has no positive effect.

Oh, and disney made us naive.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-02-06T10:17:35+00:00

the "tinder swindler" is scammer Simon Leviev who conned millions of dollars out of victims using the popular online dating app. Though he disguised himself under various aliases, the swindler is widely recognized as Simon Leviev, who claimed he worked in dangerous diamond business and was the son of billionaire Israeli diamond oligarch Lev Leviev. He conned an estimated 10 million dollars out of women he attracted on the popular dating app, Tinder.

sacchilax · 2022-02-07T02:32:59+00:00

A typical narcissist

Title	The tinder swindler documentary 2022 on netflix: sex pozzy culture needs to end because it only hurts women
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Date	February 6, 2022 9:59 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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