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[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist93 points94 points95 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes they are fully aware of what they are doing. Never be fooled.
[–][deleted] 44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The only reason why I offer to pay 50% for a date is if I don't intend to see the guy ever again
[–]FluffandRaincloudsFDS Disciple29 points30 points31 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Me too. I call it "emergency SEE YA" money. That way I don't owe him shit 😂
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same here. I immediately ask for a split check if I don't see it going anywhere.
Unless it was like a guy who begged to take me out and I already knew I wouldn't like him. That is when he'll pay for the check. This doesn't happen often to me, but did in the past.
[–][deleted] 21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Im sure that same guy complains about paying on the first date. sometmes LVM will talk about "who is wife/gf material" "who they will pick" aka WHO IS GOOD ENOUGH. Nah that is not for you to decide. I don't believe in going dutch either but even fatass ugly Jay Leno said to Gisele (ubermodel) on his show NOT JOKING "I can't date you because of my wife" he was noooooooooooooot kidding. and like men who make comments about women passing by- "shes a keeper/i would smash"- they have no idea what the hell they are talking about. men always QUALIFYING WOMEN without regard to if these women even want them. I hate this type of dude- fuck you, you aren't "husband material"
Debit Wife Material
Credit My own assessment of myself fuck you
[–]MaisiebrFDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, I hate hate hate this. It happens in everyday life too. Walking on the street and hearing this shit behind me, good or bad (though the good is still not good there - I would smash, what?), is infuriating. Like I would even consider looking at them or poking them with a stick.
[–][deleted] 27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😱😱😱
[–][deleted] 39 points40 points41 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I actually know a guy who is like this. He used to date a nice and really helpful girl but she wasn’t pretty so he always split with her 50/50. And recently he started dating really gorgeous and beautiful girl (I would rate her 9/10) and yes, he always pays for their dates.
[–]extraacct1234Ruthless Strategist10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Straight from the horse's mouth
[–]yeontanwFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Shortly, he doesn't see your value if he wants 50/50.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What do you say on the first date if he says something like "I guess we'll split?".
I'm new to FDS and didn't see it in the sidebar, sorry if it is!
[–]FluffandRaincloudsFDS Disciple19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This one: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d1mpsx/how_to_never_ever_pay_on_a_date/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body
If he offers splitsies, he's not showing investment in you after you spent 2+ hours shaving, waxing, painting, buffing, styling, spraying, dressing, and laquering yourself. Generous dudes are non-negotiable.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you!!!
[–]raiu86FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Personally, back in my single days, I paid and ghosted.
When they split the check, you don't see them again. I had one try to be cute and offer to flip a coin. I said no thanks, I'll pay for mine. Ghosted
[+]goldenmantellaFDS Newbie-11 points-10 points-9 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What's wrong with offering to split the bill? I just see that as being polite...
[–]WillingBeingFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There is a handbook that is required reading for this sub. They discuss this heavily, but here’s one post. Men frequently go into these interactions wanting sex. Sex has MUCH higher consequences socially and physically for women (literally our lives when it comes to birth control and pregnancy). This is just one of the many, many reasons we should expect men to pay.
[–]bloompthFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No offence to anyone in this sub but we should be making smart sexual decisions anyway. Being paid for in full or splitting a bill has no personal bearing on whether or not I sleep with a man. If a woman wants to be paid for in full and those are her standards, Godspeed. But let’s not conflate the two.
True HVM are actively cognizant of sexual and gender dynamics, and aware of how they contribute/have contributed to the larger patriarchal narrative. They understand both why a woman would want to split as well as why she’d want to be paid for. In personal Instances of dating HVM where I have split the bill, they always “make it up” to me later somehow. They don’t announce anything, they just do it.
[–]goldenmantellaFDS Newbie-2 points-1 points0 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just read it. In my first comment where I said "What's wrong with offering to split the bill?" I was referring to MYSELF making that offer. I've never been on a date where the man expected me to pay my way (thank goodness). That's awful and I hope I never experience that. I've just always made an offer to pay for my own expenses on the FIRST date. I always fully expect the man to automatically try to pay for me in addition to himself. I simply make the offer and I don't insist on it at all. If I ever encounter someone on a date who actually expects me to pay for myself, or god forbid him too, then I'm DONE with him.
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[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist93 points94 points95 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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