Told my mum about FDS

rftw2013 · 2019-12-15T18:12:51+00:00

Sis, I sense that you're seeking their approval, and you don't need it. You get to decide on your own standards. You get to decide who you date.

Get comfortable with the idea that not everyone will approve of how you choose to live your life. It's YOUR life, and you get to do as you please.

CoolMelonade · 2019-12-15T18:10:15+00:00

The benefits if FDS is you date multiple men, get your paper up, and don’t waste a second of your precious life dealing with men their BS, only enjoy the benefits. You won’t be “alone” unless you choose to be. Dick is abundant and low value - entertain men on your own terms

amanda_b_ · 2019-12-15T18:59:54+00:00

What your mum forgot to tell you is, these older women are desperate for a good man because they quickly settled for awful ones when they were young and when they finally found the courage to leave them, they discovered that the market had been wiped out.

popfriday · 2019-12-15T18:49:33+00:00

I don’t fight with men or pick meisha’s about their trash dating cycles. It’s usually a waste of time and energy.

If someone comes to me for help, or asks me how my love life is so strong, I will gladly advise. Otherwise, you just get called a slt shaming b**** and as much as it hurts me to watch a woman’s man treat her like shit. If she’s accepting it with open arms there’s nothing I can do. People have to see the truth when they are ready.

It’s important to remember women were raised and conditioned to be pick mes. If they’re not ready to see the light they’re not ready. Keep living a great life. I’ve converted women just by them seeing how happy I am. When a woman’s fed up, she’ll see the light, hopefully.

Ms_Tilly · 2019-12-15T18:56:48+00:00

We never have to be desperate for a man. LVM are a dime a dozen. They can be picked up in any bar on any night. But are they worth it? Hell no. You can take a LVM and give him everything his heart desires and he will still think he can do better and treat you that way.

Anytime I have tried being less picky and settled a little bit, I always regretted it. And that is why I never will again. I don't need a man in my life. The LVM are WHACK at sex. Even if they are good the first time, it will progressively get bad and non existent. They live for low effort in relationships, even with sex. I had to learn that one the hard way.

Your mother and her friends are misguided. Her friends need to start dating themselves and get their social lives up and running. They don't need men to enjoy their lives. And when you learn this, high value men will notice you. The problem is that there are so few of them.

levelupcleverup · 2019-12-15T19:22:23+00:00

Nothing in life is guaranteed, for one thing. Another thing I’ve learned is not to take advice from anyone you wouldn’t switch lives with in a second.

Re: settling. I disagree wholeheartedly, and I say this as a person who settled in the past. You would live your entire life knowing you settled, and the person you settled with would know it, too.

sunnygirl122 · 2019-12-15T23:27:19+00:00

This sub and the social life i am building post-divorce is really helping me see that being alone forever is not such a bad thing. And it is so true that being with a LVM is worse than being alone. I feel that my ex sucked my essence out of me over the years and now I am getting it back! We really don’t need them for anything in this era. Except...the D. My one question for you ladies is this: how do you satisfy sexual desires (aside from toys)? After a dead bedroom marriage and rediscovery of my sexuality and libido, i really want to have more sex!

TheOGJammies · 2019-12-15T23:21:13+00:00

Check out Girl Game Part 1 - Monogamy is for males

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/d2lg9t/girl_game_pt_1_males_monogamy_and_mateguarding/

_fishoutofwater_ · 2019-12-16T16:28:10+00:00

In Arabic whenever a woman is old and unmarried they say she missed the train. So one time I said this in front of my mom and she said “better for you to miss the train than for it to run you over”. We all long for a life partner to love and be loved by, who will be our confidant and person to turn to when life gets hard, but unfortunately that’s just getting more and more rare. Life is already difficult enough as it is on its own. No need to get married to the wrong person and suffer even more just for the sake of being married. It’s not worth it.

Title	Told my mum about FDS
Author	amanda_b_
Upvotes	23
Comments	17
Date	December 15, 2019 6:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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