I know that we are against travelling for a man here. However, personally I prefer to go over to a guys house when we are exclusive and at the sleeping over stage. Because my place is so small, and then I have to clean and it’s just that I see it as “my” space that I don’t really let many people come into to be honest.

I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months, so I do stay at his house a couple of times a week, and we watch movies or chat. When I do go, he always has a bottle of wine there (asked what my favourite ones are, and now always gets them), and always buys or makes me dinner. He will then either take me out for breakfast the next morning, or will go out and get us breakfast and coffee while I stay in bed.

He takes me on date nights 1-2 times per week, to nice restaurants - asks me what I like, researches and suggests a place, books it himself, drives us there, pays for everything, and will often pick up a bottle of wine for him also. He’s also planning a weekend away for us (he’s paying for everything).

Because my last ex took me for granted going to his house all the time, (he rarely took me out, rarely bought me anything (besides when he had done something wrong), I just feel maybe I shouldn’t be going to this new guys house and should have him come to mine more...I just feel so uncomfortable with that!

Perhaps I just need to make sure the times we see each other are actual “date” nights. But sometimes I’m so exhausted from job searching, and also doing a very physical low paid job to get by, that I just don’t feel like getting dressed up and going out multiple times a week. Sometimes I do just like going there to watch movies, and have him bring me wine and dinner.

What are your thoughts about how I should handle this?

Edit: He’s the one who wanted exclusivity so I guess I just worry that I’m making it too easy for him by staying at his place. He also has a big puppy, which is another reason I go to his place. He’s offered to bring the dog to my place but I live in an inner city apartment where we can’t have dogs, so it is a little more inconvenient. Plus I don’t have a TV that we can watch movies on 😂 ... (edit: I don’t Have a TV because I don’t watch TV).

Oh also, I realise I slept with him too soon also 🙄 it’s one thing I haven’t managed to implement from FDS, but plan to do next time if this one ends.

I think I just get worried that I’ve set the bar too low still because of all the rubbish I put up with from my ex.