Gold-digger, incel, bitter, misandrist, etc.

We’ve heard all of these before, and more, and worse. And when we do, it can be tempting to want to defend ourselves, to prove them wrong. But we don’t have to. It is not our job to educate people, it is not our job to give insight to people when they don’t want to listen, and trying to convince others of who we are is seeking validation that we should not be seeking.

We do not and will not entertain idiots.

FDS’ core principles revolve around advice, humour, research and anecdotes. They seek to arm women with information and provide them with support in all aspects of life. My exploration here has made me see this sub as a sisterhood where my traumas are understood and my desires shared.

There is nothing scandalous or outrageous in wanting to be invested in, financially, time-wise or other. We cannot be shamed into not asking, demanding or accepting what we want and deserve. If you do not like this, just say you’re stingy and MOVE ON.

We do not and will not entertain freeloaders.

There is nothing wrong, not an ounce of evil, in spewing our dislike for manipulative, unappreciative, misogynistic men, women and others.

We do not and will not entertain violence done by anyone to anyone, physically, mentally, verbally and emotionally.

When I first came across this sub, I saw stories of women who had been abused or taken advantage of by men. I saw stories of women who had no experience or knowledge and wanted to seek that so that they could feel prepared. So many times, my opinions have been challenged and tested and I have learned so much. Being challenged and tested in order to grow and learn is essential and amazing. Those that demean us without basis seek only to challenge, not to be challenged and certainly not to actually learn about us.

We do not and will not entertain discussions with people that do not plan on actually listening.

Unlike misogynists, we do not harm and kill those that we oppress because we do not believe in using harm and violence, and because we do not oppress anyone. Except maybe dumbass freeloaders who don’t know how to wash their balls but DO know how to waste a lady’s time.

Unlike incels, we actively work on ourselves to achieve what we desire and enhance our desirability, primarily for OURSELVES. We do not feel entitled to that which we have not worked for or deserve, we do not incite needless violence and hate to the innocent.

Now, seemingly the only people that are bothered by what we do are Low Value Men and Pickmeisha’s.

Why? Who the fuck CARES!

Maybe the Low Value Men are the bitter ones because their precious patriarchy doesn’t allow them to make a safe space for them to talk about their feelings. Maybe they just hate to see women thrive.

It literally doesn’t matter. No matter what, people from all kinds of backgrounds will hate us. The last thing I’m going to do is dwell on it, much less entertain one of those fools. Boo hoo! Women are happy here, get over it!

We have nothing to prove. We know who we are, we know what we want and no amount of crybaby man-tears will change that.