Women are not your enemy.

HauntedManagement · 2020-02-28T02:05:03+00:00

also, many of us on this sub are former pickmeishas. Yes I hate to see the behavior but I always have hope they’ll come around and start respecting themselves and the value of all women. Ultimately all women are given the same shit deal that encourages pickmeisha behaviors and advantages men- some women participating in this shit are just young, insecure, and stuck in the shitty system that aims to disadvantage them. So I try to bring pickmeishas around if I can, although obviously some are determined to keep up the tomfoolery.

FraidyCat00 · 2020-02-28T03:23:23+00:00

...men make no drama. Bwahahhaaaa. I had male friends. Friendly male coworkers.... Please, please ask me why that is past tense... After (or even during) my divorce, with the exception of maybe 1 single male in that category. 87%... ALL of those asshats hit on me. For sex, dating, or otherwise. Fuc}%^rs!! I’ve never felt more betrayed or disillusioned as I was during that time. Frick that. I was faithful to my LVex and never once put out any vibes to support girlfriend or hookup zoning me. I’m still salty years later.

Ladies, cherish your girlfriends. Love them for the treasures they are. These women are your tribe and will be there for you like no pansy all LV man can be. Nourish them with the same energy they give you.

hilariouslystated · 2020-02-28T01:31:20+00:00

And when women fight over a guy the only one who is wins is the guy because as usual, he isn't held accountable.

2020-02-28T09:03:41+00:00

If he's able to be "stolen" I don't want him anyway. Best of luck to you both. You're very well suited, lol.

Right-Clock · 2020-02-28T11:34:08+00:00

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Saitschik · 2020-02-28T12:34:49+00:00

Yes. It is also for yourself cause life is way more pleasant when you treat other women with respect and dont think every other woman is competition or a threat.

The patriarchal myth "Men are less drama and easier to get along with" is the biggest bullshit. And I guess deep down "cool girls" know this, too. Many men thrive for drama and they happily gossip just as much as women if not more. The self-considered "logical" types are no exception.

Radtron3000 · 2020-02-28T02:16:38+00:00

Thank you

SazeracSlap · 2020-02-28T06:37:55+00:00

No man will ever provide you the emotional depth, support, and understanding that your lady friends can and will. Thank you for this post OP! One of my life’s missions is to get women to support women! Not to mention getting advice and support while dating from Girlfriends is especially great

ivy176 · 2020-02-28T15:00:13+00:00

Yeah, I've never understood that attitude. Your man isn't a helpless puppy, he's a grown man.

I'd be very angry at a woman if I had a relationship with her and she went behind my back and tried to hit on my partner.

But if my partner cheated on me, even if it was with a friend, they'd both be dead to me but my main fury would be with him. If it was a woman that had no idea he was in a relationship then I wouldn't feel anything negative towards her. If she knew but just didn't care and I didn't know her, I wouldn't have any respect for that but I wouldn't focus on her or hate her.

Haltthemoon · 2020-02-28T18:17:24+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly.

Also, have sympathy for their exes. Last year, I dated this guy who weirdly talked about his ex a lot. It was always a tone of superiority whenever he talked about her as if she wasn't good enough for him. I knew it was a red flag. My therapist said to collect as much information as possible and that would include his ex.

Every story he told me about them, he came out as the asshole EVERY SINGLE TIME. She wanted to go hiking. He wanted to get food beforehand and then devoured a huge burger. He proceeded to tell her he was too full to hike and they went home. He twisted the story as 'we weren't compatible, she was an outdoorsy person and I'm not so she should do those things without me'. Another time, he told me about he made her very self-conscious about her small breasts that she considered plastic surgery. They even went to a few appointments together. Thankfully, she wised up and didn't go thru with the surgery.

I had enough after a few months and broke things off with him. Those stories really changed my perspective of exes. That poor woman. She put up with him for 2 YEARS! 2 freaking years!

Me? Nah! But he played himself by telling me all those stories.

Now, whenever I'm dating someone, I always ask about their exes but in a very warm manner. I realized before I was always approaching exes with a bit of disdain. I feel for these women because honestly, most of us are HVW. So, why did the last woman leave? Was it them? Or was it really just him?

fair_child123 · 2020-02-28T00:19:11+00:00

I have grown so much in the past few years. Lately I am tending so much more to my female relationships and my feminism and it feels great ❤️

shrimpcakewithcrust · 2020-02-28T08:29:02+00:00

Yes, exactly. I get being mad at the woman, especially if she knew about the relationship. Like, why is this dirty lvw deciding to use and get used by a lvm? Pigs are attracted to pigs.

namelson3005 · 2020-02-29T17:08:46+00:00

Thanks for this. Been saying it for years, because this is exactly what men and women with internalized misogyny want.

Title	Women are not your enemy.
Author	namelson3005
Upvotes	342
Comments	18
Date	February 28, 2020 12:06 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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