It’s time

ImstarIordman · 2020-02-19T04:50:33+00:00

Start recording every thing get proof of her trying to ruin you.

xdrunkagainx · 2020-02-19T06:24:36+00:00

Start moving the money now, cut off the credit cards. If there's a casino close by start going and withdrawing money there at an ATM machine, then hide it. When you go to court you can claim the stress from your marriage failing caused you to gamble as a last resort to save it.

ikhwan_arif · 2020-02-19T06:27:31+00:00

Remember, this is the long game. You will need to prepare.

You will need to close any joint account and another other access your wife has to your money.
You will probably need to go scorch earth.
You're going to need the most vicious divorce attorney there is because if you don't get them first, she will.
She will accuse you of domestic violence, sexual assault and pedophilia.
She will spread her lies to everyone that you know; your mother, your brothers and sisters, your work colleagues, your cousins, your neighbors, your social media followers; everyone.
She will push every button that you have to get you mad so that the authorities will arrest you.
Then she will try to seduce you to entrap you later.
She will cry crocodile tears, beg for your forgiveness and mercy but if you do, she'll take you to court 5 years later for increase alimony and child support.
You must dig up anything on her - admitted for mental illness, DUI, any arrest record, any drug records; anything.

Good luck.

Alcibiadestiny · 2020-02-19T04:58:36+00:00

Do EVERYTHING your attorney says, IMMEDIATELY.

evergreen35 · 2020-02-19T05:36:09+00:00

No more sex ever with her Bro.

LotBuilder · 2020-02-19T06:46:43+00:00

My advice is to listen to your attorney and prepare to be fast and vicious. They always turn sour so their is no point pretending to be nice from the start. Be methodical gathering everything you need go back up you story. Don’t keep it to yourself. She will try to convince you to keep everything private and then control the narrative that you are some sort of monster. Just be brief and factual when anyone asks.

switchxscript · 2020-02-19T04:49:03+00:00

best luck to you brother ! this choice just freed you

Count_Morrel · 2020-02-19T04:46:15+00:00

All the best to you brother! You deserve more out of life!

VigilantCMDR · 2020-02-19T06:48:56+00:00

Its going to be super fucking painful and tough at first

But a few days later it will slowly get better

And months youll be happier than ever before

My advice is to get rid of anything that reminds you of her

Remember. You could be getting screamed at by her in 9 months or buying a brand new tesla and having a joyride with your best friend traveling the world. Make the choice

ContactJoshua · 2020-02-19T05:13:41+00:00

good luck man! come back and let us know how it goes

BlastRadius115 · 2020-02-19T04:56:16+00:00

good vibes sent

RedPillMissionary · 2020-02-19T06:13:51+00:00

Your first vacation after will be glorious

contraterrene · 2020-02-19T05:42:33+00:00

Before you file for divorce as much as legally possible video everything.

She may sense something on the horizon and slap you with a false accusation.

Fezig · 2020-02-19T11:57:43+00:00

Stay the fuck away from the ‘Pause’ button. Sounds like you’ve done your analysis and made your plan - follow through! I pulled the trigger 4 years ago after 27 married. It isn’t the easiest transition but you will respect yourself in the end for taking care of YOU, brother.

ftc1234 · 2020-02-19T05:46:49+00:00

Good luck. Stay strong and don't do ANYTHING emotionally. Master your emotions in this tough time.

jws755 · 2020-02-19T06:18:03+00:00

Youre taking the first step to get your life back. It may suck for awhile, but I promise you theres a better life ahead. With all that shit, would you ever trust her again? Be businesslike, dont bad mouth her, communicate only through your lawyers, and stay away from alcohol. I promise you will get some call/email 2 years from now, her begging to get you back. Don't do it.

chargedm90 · 2020-02-19T07:12:52+00:00

Make SURE it's a lawyer specifically geared for helping men. And the lawyer absolutely has to be male as well.

Unshack · 2020-02-19T07:55:28+00:00

make sure to take happy divorce selfie, women hate that. Post selfie when done. We'll make you a meme. Bonus points if ex-wife is visibly unhappy in the selfie.

gevalher · 2020-02-19T08:37:39+00:00

And go to the best and expensive lawyers in town (so they can't be hired by your wife...) Watch the movie "Divorce-raping Story" (But Netflix insisted that the title is "Marriage Story"

kubicas · 2020-02-19T10:19:15+00:00

I love how this community helps other men in these legally unfair times. Wish you the best OP.

cosmicvoyager2408 · 2020-02-19T04:49:44+00:00

All the best man!

Equivalent-Craft · 2020-02-19T07:06:25+00:00

Yes buy a big diairy planner n document everything. No phone calls. Texts and emails if possible

bpdloveoflife · 2020-02-19T12:55:48+00:00

What you are doing is one of the hardest thing a man can do, and you seem to have the courage and the strength for it. I am hoping you dont have kids with her. Remember - nothing is more valuable than freedom for the rest of your life. I would suggets start keeping a journal if you havent, record any evidence of abuse that you can, and be prepared for a bumoy ride, but after the landing it will be blue skies.

Sending you all the best vibes from down under.

2020-02-19T14:06:22+00:00

Dude get a digital voice recorder and tape her threats

drmonkeytown · 2020-02-19T05:35:44+00:00

You deserve your happiness and your freedom brother.

ShowMeWarFace · 2020-02-19T05:53:53+00:00

It's been time, brother. You got this. May peace and happiness be just around the corner.

AncientMGTOWWISDOM · 2020-02-19T07:41:13+00:00

you need to gain the first mover advantage, act now!

TheTastelessBatman · 2020-02-19T07:58:08+00:00

Good for ya man. Sending positive vibes your way. Fuck her up good, bruh.

Gingham_Argile · 2020-02-19T08:33:28+00:00

If you own a house with her, don't move out. If this is the case and you move, the house in some cases will default to her.

Keep all of your valuables and guns out of the house during during this transition.

Alexius_von_Meinong · 2020-02-19T08:52:01+00:00

Be cool. Be rational. Don't let her get to you. Your ability to remain clear and focused through the process will make a difference in the outcome. The point is to regain your freedom. Never take your eyes off the prize or get distracted by things that don't or won't matter.

carbonblob · 2020-02-19T09:32:22+00:00

This will be the craziest thing you've ever gone through. You weren't the first, and won't be the last.

You have a support network through places like this forum - 10-30 years ago many of us were on our own.

It's OK to flick a mosquito off of your arm that's sucking your blood.

You'll have some ups and downs, but this thought helped me: reflect on how you'll still have opportunities for a great life that most men on earth never will, due to their economic and political circumstances.

BoxofMistakes · 2020-02-19T09:38:57+00:00

Before she knows consult the best divorce attorneys can so there will be conflicts of interest and they won't be able to represent her.

ShugokisMoobies · 2020-02-19T09:55:41+00:00

You've got this man

1xTom · 2020-02-19T10:07:39+00:00

The wise man does at once what the fool does finally. – Niccolò Machiavelli

Maybe not the best guy to quote, but you get the point.

SocialAssassin4Hire · 2020-02-19T11:05:35+00:00

Start putting your money in an offshore account.

femabuse · 2020-02-19T11:27:18+00:00

Peace brother and best of wishes to you. Stay strong for yourself.

noobahoi · 2020-02-19T11:46:40+00:00

Good luck. There will be better times ahead.

YoungKingFCB · 2020-02-19T13:25:46+00:00

Congratulations on fighting for your life back.

Another_Human_Bot · 2020-02-19T13:34:58+00:00

I wish you the best man, good luck

Cheeky9 · 2020-02-19T14:02:28+00:00

Just do it.

LissieLesore · 2020-02-19T15:03:20+00:00

I'm sorry you had to live like this for years. But now you are finally taking a step in the right direction. I hope the process will go as smooth as possible. And follow all the good advices in the comments here. Good luck, and when things get hard. Just remember every day you get one step closer to feel like a free man again!! And never ever let anyone put you down ever again! God vibes to you from Norway!

TheOnly1forNow · 2020-02-19T16:01:16+00:00

Good on you. There is no need to take abuse from someone who is supposed to care about you. Best of luck bro!

Harveezs · 2020-02-21T04:34:15+00:00

Do it, you may be in a bad place for a while. but good days will come. This is the situation I would say: man up and just do it.

All the best to you sir!

PS: i am mgtow, so no gf or wife don't know much about the whole process, but I hope my words of encouragement will cheer you on

2020-02-19T09:06:11+00:00

Dude, you are doing the best thing. Welcome, brother! If you need to talk just DM me.

RealBiggly · 2020-02-19T09:23:55+00:00

Go bro!

Black_Jackel · 2020-02-19T09:34:53+00:00

Good luck bro, you got it.

licknsuckus · 2020-02-19T10:24:48+00:00

Were here for you my friend! MGTOW for life!

Title	It’s time
Author	gmow2019
Upvotes	455
Comments	79
Date	February 19, 2020 4:42 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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