Dating in the Modern Age

GlobalAsshat · 2019-04-13T03:39:01+00:00

The longer you are single the harder socializing can be, especially for an introvert. Youre used to doing things on your terms and having to constant text or talk to a person seems like work to you (and me.)

GoldCoastWanderer · 2019-04-13T23:51:08+00:00

There is one thing a lot of people often forget about dating, and that's that the other person doesn't know you at first. Most people go out there looking for "love", but love is not something you magically find with a random stranger. Life is not a romanic comedy. Love is something you have to work for. People need to decide on whether or not love is important enough to work for. If not, you just accept living without it. Now that is truly going your own way.

The other major mistake people make is thinking they can change other people. We can't. Most people therefore look for money or looks or whatever as some kind of a promise of future behaviour, assuming that if a guy has money, he'll be able to buy her things in future, or if a woman is somehow "hot", she'll be able to provide great sex. Love doesn't enter into it, simply because you can't develop romantic feelings for someone by looking at a dating profile or eating a meal with them. It's impossible.

Dating is work. You have to make yourself attractive to as many women as possible, then you have to put yourself out there and arrange to meet them. For most of us, this is something that requires some degree of effort. By the way, this isn't unique to dating women either. Have you seen the profiles on gay dating sites? Some of the things they demand? There are plenty of men who want to date other man and expect to be showered with dinners and drinks and expensive things too.

BludgeonVIII · 2019-04-14T02:37:05+00:00

Aye, I'm 19 and modern dating doesn't really seem that appealing at all.

I just...don't really feel like it's worth it all that much.

I mean, haven't dated all that much myself, but seeing secondhand experiences sorta turned me off.

For instance, I come from Los Angeles, and I've noticed a pattern in my age group wherein, if you manage to snag a girl, it's basically a rite of passage to spend a fuck load of money and take her to Disneyland or Universal Studios Hollywood.

If you don't, well, you're sorta seen as a dead-beat boyfriend who doesn't love your girl enough.

That just doesn't really seem like my thing, ya know?

TaxEvader7766 · 2019-04-13T20:57:39+00:00

Dating is like a job interview. She is scoping you out to see how much resources she can take from you with the least amount of effort just like how an employer would. Its always what you can do for others otherwise no one is interested.

redditicantrecall · 2019-04-14T21:01:43+00:00

Yes, but it takes two to tango.

Plus I'm poor asf right now in some ways so I don't date anyhow.

DangZagnut · 2019-04-13T03:43:42+00:00

Does anyone else out there feel like getting back into dating is like a job?

No, I didn't structure my life to not work to then pick up a shitty job that I have to pay for and make no money from. If I wanted to do that I'd join Amway.

If you're going to date, make them do all the work. They can ask you out, they can approach you. It's not work, it's not giving a shit. Make them participate for once.

chart6653 · 2019-04-13T12:40:05+00:00

You've got a high SMV for a male.... interesting line of work, cash in the bank, great living situation, and it's still a shitshow. Imagine what it's like for us lower-level schlubs. Welcome to 'modern' relationships.

The women at your level do what all women do, which is 'date up'. In your case, that means the women who are at your level are dating very very high up the male food chain.

The marketplace is such that you, and all men, have to 'date down', and you are realizing, with your intelligence and standards, that the women below your level are intolerable.

I guess there's a few options.

Put a profile on Tinder and hammer some below-standard poon.
Leave Western Society as others have mentioned, and go find a mate on the beach in The Phillipines or wherever
High class escorts
Monk mode

20182019_Throwaway · 2019-04-13T04:14:36+00:00

I think dating is work...and you want value for your time. You might not get value in dating, ever.

RasGanesha_13 · 2019-04-15T07:03:31+00:00

Dang... baller. 3rd house? Haha.

I have a different outlook on this than most. The main issue you’re having, and so many others, is that you’re trying to have a “relationship” with another person. Aside from a friendship, you’re implying there is or has to be something more. More than “just friends”. That’s where I lose most ppl. Having sex with multiple ppl is bad, I feel. It’s just not very safe. So have sex with one girl. Call her your friend. Have a different mentally I when you are approaching this. Get away from the feeling you owe this other person. That they are different than a good friend. Treat them with respect and give them privacy. Stay away from the GF term. I know this may sound stupid, but it’s really how you think about the situation, the reality. You need to change your perspective and be a good friend who’s honest with himself and his sexual pattern, his friend. And just live your life. Don’t let anyone dictate your day. You are the godhead.

And as far as texting goes. Just don’t text back as often. Make the time in between your messages really long. And stay away from texting at night. That shits bad for you man. 😉

shimelessemekbeb · 2019-04-13T07:43:02+00:00

if you're in the film industry like me im surprised you havent become an expat yet. there is no current viable solution to your problem in the west. you also dont want to lose/risk your life's labor and have to start over all again as many have done. thats some next level pain and youve only got so many good years to walk this planet. hope that helps. ciao

-shimmy

Chill-BL · 2019-04-13T10:19:21+00:00

Ask what you going to get out of her nonsense babbling.

If it's nothing, you delete the number.

Scantraxx12 · 2019-04-13T12:55:32+00:00

Dating is a little work, but it gets even worse when the person your dating has ZERO resources, like a car, money for food, housing, transportation, etc. Honestly, the older I grow, the less I have need to text people, unless I care about them and they have cared about me. Examples would be girlfriend, friends, or family. I always reply to the people that I care about. People that have wronged me and that show me no respect, I would almost ignore them (karma?).

The worst is when your with someone and doing all the work, and they still give you shit for it. That's when you call it quits. Anyone that respects you, will respect how you feel. I think at this point it's a fact of life. Love and respect are two different things. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you respect them.

Nov51605 · 2019-04-13T16:01:30+00:00

A high value guy like you should only allow women who have high interest in you into your life. You have nothing to prove to them, lettyem do all the pursuing. Use their hypergamy against them , so they think theres a chance, only to find out the truth later. Get a vasectomy yesterday

Poofysmoof · 2019-04-13T16:04:42+00:00

You sound like you are very stable with money. If you really want to start dating and make it easy. You have to work in the other avenues of your life.

There is a point where you won’t have to chase women. They will start chasing you, money is very important but so is everything else. Especially in today’s age of everyone only puts out their highlight reel of their life.

To make it easy you have to project you are a great catch. Are you are great catch? That doesn’t really matter just, you just have to show you are.

Read “The Rationale Male,” that book explains the emotional side of women that seems to be taboo to talk about.

To be honest with you, “Love is a myth,” it’s a transactional situation. “What can you do for her? And if it’s enough she will give you this.”

ChiTownBob · 2019-04-13T18:18:03+00:00

You're thinking of dating LA women?

Run for your life.

Title	Dating in the Modern Age
Author	dontyoudarereply
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Date	April 13, 2019 3:28 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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