How does one stop caring?

Impossible-asset · 2020-11-30T11:29:34+00:00

You don't "stop caring". You change the focus of the things you care about.
Who says you have to be old and lonely? I"m 46 now. I live alone and I'm loving life. You avoid being lonely if you make friends, maybe get a dog. Stay active. Never, EVER stop learning. If you're worried about the "but i don't want to die alone" line of thinking, i'll just remind you that EVERYONE dies alone. Everyone. Whether you're in your bed surrounded by family in your 90's, or surrounded by people in a (god forbid) plane crash. You cross that line by yourself and only by yourself. And so has everyone else eho has ever gone before you.
As for guys who are being played and theyre not your very close friends, leave it alone. It's none of your business. Sometimes the best teacher for someone is experiemce, and experience can be painful.

Live life one day at a time, and savor this flash in the pan that the universe gave you. It's unique that we know of, and astonishingly short. So be happy that you're here.

Alucardnz · 2020-11-30T08:38:22+00:00

Once you derive happiness from yourself you will never be lonely again.

Ben_Paul_ · 2020-11-30T15:39:16+00:00

Bro you'd be divorced, old and lonely eventually so what you crying about?

Beginning-Money3264 · 2020-11-30T10:27:58+00:00

Why will you be old and lonely? Won't you have friends?

casra888 · 2020-11-30T16:03:13+00:00

Care about yourself!!!

CrayonViking · 2020-11-30T14:59:31+00:00

You can still date and go out and have fun while being mgtow, brah. You're not am monk (unless you choose to be one)>

Just don't get married, live w a chick or have kids with her, so that your financial future isn't up for grabs.

Other than that, have fun! Get laid and enjoy life.

Beginning-Money3264 · 2020-11-30T15:10:40+00:00

That's true lol I forgot pimps were basically mgtow

Dead_Art · 2020-11-30T19:41:32+00:00

"what do I do when I get old and lonely?"

What makes you think that you won't be old and lonely in a marriage? Get a dog and make some friends around a hobby, even if that hobby is just watching a game at a sports bar.

Also should I tell dudes who are getting played by girls that they're getting played even if I don't know them or should I be a good fellow man and tell them?

Don't bother, even if it's true you'll just drive them into the "Protector" role of their relationship and they'll just see you as something in the way of that to be cut off. Instead just talk about how you don't have to put up with that shit and watch them stare off into space as they imagine the thought

Reddit1984Censorship · 2020-11-30T11:59:01+00:00

Any human contact works for loneliness it doesnt have to be a relationship with a woman.
If you care about human contact too much its probably because of what i call an ''empathy addiction'' you are too used to constantly be empathizing with what others feel rather than having your attention on what you yourself feel, it goes away with practice like every other addiction.

I wouldnt tell blue pilled dudes directly the truth but rather guide them or show them red pill content like just mentioning that MGTOW exists or other red pill concepts but like in the matrix movie they are the ones that have to decide to take the red pill by themselves you can just show them the way.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-11-30T19:27:43+00:00

"What do I do when I get old and lonely?" Those are two different questions.

What do you do when you get old? Many of the same things you're doing now, except working. Yes, some things get physically more difficult when you pass 70 or so, but generally speaking, if you stay active and mentally engaged in life, you'll age well.

What do you do when you get lonely? Well, first let's make sure we know what "lonely" means. Loneliness is not at all the same as being alone. It has three components:

- feeling disconnected and alienated from other people

- feeling as if this is going to go on forever, and you are helpless to change it

- feeling inferior about it, as if there is something wrong with you for being this way

For that, I think it's helpful to work on each of those pieces. You learn how to feel connected, not alienated. You work on the defeatism, the helplessness. And you work to counter the feelings of shame or inferiority.

If you have problems with loneliness, you won't need to wait until you're old to experience it. You'll get a chance to deal with it long before that.

For what it's worth, I think young people are often more lonely than old people. I think lonely old people is somewhat of a stereotype and not necessarily true. Young people are often very active socially and yet, at the same time, report high rates of social alienation and loneliness.

burnett-lignon · 2020-11-30T21:54:00+00:00

I'm 70 and live by myself with 3 dogs in the country a couple of miles from the nearest town; I rarely feel lonely even though I spend a lot of time alone. Life is satisfying to me and I'm happy with it and look forward to getting up every day. I work 3 to 5 days a week remodeling old houses, and have 2 guys who've worked for me for a few years that I'm very good friends with. They do almost all of the work and I do the planning and purchasing. I also own and manage 15 houses and work with the purchasers/occupants and realtors, as well as raising cattle, goats, bees and maintain a moderate size garden. I was married for 20 years and became MGTOW before it was called that. I shudder to think what life would be like if I was had still been married to my wife, who died a few years ago.

Odin135 · 2020-11-30T23:54:43+00:00

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Take up some hobbies and interests. Join a sports league for adults. Find things that interest you and do them. You will meet people who also enjoy those activities.

mvlock · 2020-12-01T00:31:16+00:00

woman and man are not really capable of understanding each other

so its mostly living together but feeling alone

i mean it very rare to have the good kind of relationship

those days women see what its on TV and warp her head around it.

while men are more understanding the brainwashing.

so women are going on high dense of dopamine rush and then trash all rest of their life

while men are looking up the future and getting ready and securing their money.

so how we could ever understand each other while the media corrupting their mind

just like believing in god or religion people

have common ground to began with

now its just all messed up and its gonna stay like this for while

so u can understand this and not blame ur self and it might relieve the caring of u

Beginning-Money3264 · 2020-11-30T16:05:47+00:00

Don't stop caring.. care about you.

Present you should be working hard for future you, based on knowledge past you earned.

Also should I tell dudes who are getting played by girls that they're getting played even if I don't know them or should I be a good fellow man and tell them?

No.. In my experience those dudes have to go through it.. if you try to get in the way they will ditch you. The addiction to female validation is too strong.

apexvice88 · 2020-12-01T14:17:45+00:00

/r/sexdolls

sevensliders · 2020-12-01T16:56:06+00:00

It's not like I stopped caring, it's that I am largely indifferent of superficial bullshit. It has given me tremendous peace of mind when combined with purpose and self-development.

I care about people but the moment they start appealing to emotional nonsense my interest in the subject flatlines.

Title	How does one stop caring?
Author	Beginning-Money3264
Upvotes	1
Comments	41
Date	November 30, 2020 8:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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