I see a lot of new guys who have real problems with anger. They're angry at their wives, bitter at how they've been treated, and they let it show.

The red pill is not that. The red pill is a sexual strategy and the core of the strategy is to be a quality man. To be attractive. It is about the pull. Everything else hinges on that. Without a solid SMV you don't have the leverage to pull off any of the other moves.

An attractive man of high quality, does he walk around angry or bitter? No. He is enjoying life. He has a ton of options, there's interesting things for him to do and he doesn't let other people pull him down.

When we say STFU, we don't mean don't talk to your wife. There is still normal chit chat and logistics to talk about; disengaging from those will only come across as butthurt and being in her frame. STFU about your feelings and plans for the marriage, STFU if you can't come up with a good A&A response to her shit test, but don't literally shut up all the time.

When we say withdraw affection, we don't mean walk around being icy or bitter. That's not attractive. She's not going to come running after a man who is upset.

Cultivate an image of having fun. Be energetic. Do interesting things that you enjoy. Get shit done. That's why you need hobbies and friends, so you don't live in her frame; so she can be a bitch and you can just shrug it off and do something you enjoy. When you withdraw affection, what she should see is a man having fun without her, not some grumpy dude in the couch. Be the sort of man that makes her think I wish I was hanging off his arm.

Don't let her get to you. I get why many of us are angry - we have good reason to be - but it has no place being put on display. Save it for the weights or ranting on reddit.

While anger is rarely attractive, it does have its place. The social signal part of anger is I'm becoming emotionally invested in punishing you to the point that I will do so even at risk or cost to myself. That can be a powerful signal if you are able to punish the other person. Can you punish your wife? I have very few weapons in my arsenal except withdrawing affection and sex, and their effectiveness rely solely on my SMV, and I built my SMV by lifting, being interesting, having fun, teasing her when she shit tested me, and not getting worked up about anything she did.

Also realize how anger fucks with your mind. That thing about signalling that you are willing to punish people at cost to yourself, that same program is actually running in your head and messing with your decision processes. Anger makes you think you are right. It makes you think that acting on your anger will work and the risks aren't that bad. Anger makes small guys take a swing at much bigger and badder men. If you're not fucking your wife several times per week, you're the smaller guy. Don't take a swing at her. It is so easy to think that I just need to be angry and make the bitch know I won't stand for it and she'll see how much of a man I am.

That's not how it works. You're letting anger cloud your judgement if you think like that. You need to stop living in her frame, stop thinking about showing her her place, and just focus on you.

Go do interesting things. Be happy. Anything short of being happy signals a lack of options and a lack of control, and that's not attractive and that's not red pill.