So I have been making progress holding frame and gaming my wife. Nights out and other social events are going well to remind her of my higher SMV. The final product is still out of reach most times.

I have a specific example I wonder how you guys would have handled. I arranged a late date night for the two of us last Friday. Babysitter at our house so we can stay out late and have some fun, good dinner, she dressed up even and was looking pretty sexy. Then, because I haven't been keeping track, she surprised me by telling me she just started her period that morning. Fuck. Oh well... I try not to think about it, maybe she'll give me some hand or mouth attention later but she never does so... Whatever.

Being Easter weekend there were lots of people out and younger girls home to visit family. I interacted with a few of them, a couple I knew their older brothers, sisters whatever... I know if I wasn't married (or in my wife's presence) I could have took a couple of them home. One even bought me a drink from the other end of the bar and not my wife. My wife gave me a look like 'really?' But I smiled and took the drink. We danced, we joked with people and we went home.

Pretty quickly after babysitter leaves she kneels in front of me on the couch and starts giving me a blowjob. I'm thinking hell yes, finally! I have been doing no-fap and was ready to explode. She is into it and it's amazing for about 4-5 mins. She is really good when she's into it. Then she has a look on her face, then she switches to her hand and looks bored. I take her shirt off and she seems to get back into it, but I can tell she's pretty much done.

She ends up scolding me for taking too long. 'Can't you just finish already?' I said, 'Seriously, it's been like 6 minutes!' 'No it hasn't! She keeps going for another minute and then just walks off bitching about how she can't satisfy me any more and she's tired...7-8 minutes this all happened in.

She has some sort of altered perception of time when the deed starts, she thinks she's been doing it for a long time and it's only been a few minutes. I don't about anybody else but 5 mins of a blowjob and then nasty looks because I'm taking too long doesn't get me off.

I said it was bullshit, it had I my been a few minutes but thanks for nothing and get dressed and go to the basement to watch tv. The next day she half ass apologized and says she gets tired. I didn't candy coat it all, I said 'yeah, I don't know why you even start it then if it's not worth your effort. Pretty shitty thing to do, but what else is new. I don't really care anymore.' Then I carried on with me weekend, didn't act butthurt about it. I didn't let it ruin my time with my son and other family, but I kept things short with her.

Not sure what else to do in this situation. She has done this several times before. Honestly, I'm not sure I do care anymore... Tough to hold frame when she walks away while your pants are down.