Well not exactly a decision tree. But a poster asked earlier for one. I wrote one out but its really not so much a decision tree. I didn't realize really the answer to that question/request until I wrote it out. I admit I failed shit tests for yeeeeeears. Passed every comfort test (too many actually). Also dealt with disrespect too.

Disrespect (Nuclear Shit Test) - In the OP's story it was blatant name calling. This isn't "oh don't be a baby" teasing tone. It's meant to emasculate immediately. Often its irrational. But its totally about you. "You are ." "Why do you ." "If you weren't so ___."

Women always go for the throat with these. My wife waited until my grandpa had a week left to live and told me I was a shit father for scolding my son. If you are worried about your sexual performance she will tell you that you are a lousy lover. If you have a big nose she will call you elephant man.

These are usually the result of shit tests that have gone unanswered for too long. Its a natural escalation.

How to handle Immediately address the disrespect in a stern but not yelling or out of control manner. Basically "I won't be talked to like that...".

Shit Tests - These are also called fitness tests because they test your fitness to mate with. They are always focused on you you you. If there is a "You _ __ _ me" then you have a comfort test. In the single world they might come down as some insult about appearance such as "You are bald" "You are short" or an attempt to quantify your worth. "How much do you make?" "I bet you are a player."

In marriage they come off in different forms. The most common one in my house is the run and fetch command. "Hey go get me ____" They also come in the form of "awwwwww" tests. Don't complain about shit. Legs hurt from leg day. "Awwwww his wittle wegs hurt..... Frowny face." It looks like emasculation but really she's begging you to flex a bit and dominate her.

How to handle Don't get butthurt. That's an auto fail. You respond with amplification. Either agree or disagree and amplify.
Run and fetch - "Can I get her highness a tiara as well" bow and scrape.
Make it absurd, the more the better. And always try to twist it to sexual things.
Run and fetch - "Get it yourself and come back with less clothing." "Get it yourself so I can ogle dat ass." Be cocky and funny about it.
Silence is the worst response but sometimes its the only one and its way better than butthurt.

Comfort Tests - Where as a shit test is meant to make you establish your value or fitness, a comfort test is an attempt to make you establish hers. That's right, you have to make her feel better. Cause making yourself feel better wasn't enough to carry. LOL

These always concern her (and sometimes she will throw you in for good measure). "I'm so fat." or "You think I'm fat." If the subject of the sentence is your SO then this is a comfort test.

In my opinion these are best answered with a hug and some humor. My humor is usually "awwww poor baby". Then a compliment but don't go overboard. Don't talk too much either. This is a big mistake. You start explaining why she's not fat and you end up saying enough to hang yourself.

Anyway I hope that helped. The redpill bloggers explain it better and have more responses. But hopefully this just helps the beginner a bit.