Micro-Steps to Unplugging

RPAlternate42 · 2015-06-26T03:00:04+00:00

Well shit I didn't make the cut!

BluepillProfessor · 2015-06-26T02:52:06+00:00

I wish there were a way to limit your browsing to approved contributors. That would be so nice especially on TRP.

TRP is great but don't forget The Rational Male. Have your sultry male voice read Rollo's shit back to you is just like lifting weights- you can feel yourself getting stronger.

whinemoreplease · 2015-06-26T03:45:18+00:00

On one hand it discounts individual challenge, on another hand individual challenges can easily just be excuses. This is an interesting well thought out post and definitely valuable, but personally it's too preachy for me, especially about the user names bit, but is dead on about how you view yourself being of utmost importance. Great advice about filtering for wisdom instead of digging throughshit.

Many guys here who are unplugging also post solid content. A lot of posts from guys on the journey may be more useful too. As I've internalized stuff, I've forgotten the challenges that go along with being new.

Archwinger is very, very good. His posts on TRP are grounded and solid bits of information to chew on. If there's one reason why you, as married person, should read TRP, it's because of him. His explanations are so clear, concise, and simply to appreciate without rambling.

theultmatecad · 2015-06-26T10:49:33+00:00

Thanks for the list of users. Some I am not familiar with and am keen to read. Likeminded men have taught me so much.

As for step one: Lifting weights and reading the side bar/top 100 posts should be the first step IMO.

That step can last month's

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AdanacRock · 2015-06-26T11:59:18+00:00

It is alarming how much "blue pill music" there is. For me the go to is Rage Against the Machine. Songs like take the power back and know your enemy could have been written for the struggling man.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-06-26T18:52:01+00:00

Lots of words. Not going to say I don't agree with them, but:

I think people are overthinking this. You're angry? great. Do you know who tends to make the best gains at the gym? Stupid guys. why? Because they don't overthink it. They go in every day, lift heavier stuff then yesterday, go home and eat.

Smart people think of excuses, take a day off to 'maximize rest day' and created 'cheat days' to justify carrot cake.

Probaly most macho time of my life was deployment to somalia for a pirate hunting patrol. I worked 12 horus a day, 7 days a week, month at a time, with a week off in the middle to go into dubai, thailand, Oman and Japan to blow off steam.

I worked out every day. was 15% at 210lbs 5'8". Fucked a 6'4" flight attendant because one of my uglier buddies was hitting on her, and I didn't like to lose to that dope.

I didn't listen to much music. I had my running mix, that hasn't changed since 9/11, Toscas first three albums, and basically watched TED talks to go to bed (back before they were vegan bullshit)

Life was simple. When we got back, we alhad like rockstars, because we didn't think. We were too busy enjoying the scant days off we would get to think beyond paying bills, and enjoying our lives.

Don't live vicariously through others, live throuhg yourself. Do something just to see what happens... If you aren't the guy in 10 years who tell life stories that others just don't believe, then you have wasted those 10 years.

And the best part, it's muscle memory. I had a bout of anxiety and alcohol for a year a while back, with my own BP story attached to it. Became very easy to get back into things, because I remembered who I was.

Ever get drunk and just book a solo ticket to mexico? Try it sometime, it's a great time to be a degenerate. Get a chicks phone number, telling her flat out 'I have a wife/girlfriend'? Whats the worst that could happen?

Ever joined a martial art? I still remember back when I was a BB in TKD, knocking a guy out with a spinning heel kick and some fancy footwork. I also remember being teamed with a 300 pound wrestler for some MMA practice and him almost cracking 3 ribs, couldn't get off the sofa for 3 days.

Just do shit.

The_Litz · 2015-06-26T19:07:11+00:00

Like the music idea. Was listening to The Rolling Stones this morning, real put me into the right frame for the day

fatalbinoninja · 2015-06-26T21:06:18+00:00

Hey, that's my name! I made it since I started posting on fatlogic and didn't want the wife to see it on the main account.

TheMatrixWantsMeBack · 2015-06-29T03:22:27+00:00

User names like /u/thematrixwantsmeback or /u/fatalbinoninja or /u/gettheresomehow are just screaming out how plugged in and unprepared to change you are. The matrix doesn’t want you back man, you are expendable and the matrix could give a shit and would rather just flush you.

Well, I'm flattered to be noticed and mentioned in such a thoughtful contribution to MRP. Hmm... You've made some really interesting points about usernames.

I'm going to explain my username as I see it, but first I'll acknowledge that your reaction gives me a pretty strong signal that I didn't pick a name that really communicated what I had in mind. I appreciate that.

What I imagined when I picked this username was something more along the lines of...

the matrix wants me back

Meaning that I am now not in the matrix. This is a positive thing, if a disconcerting or even frightening thing for someone who has just taken TRP.

the matrix wants me back

It's true that the matrix (both in the movie and the analogy) views me as an individual to be disposable. I am either a human battery cell or a "beta bux" ATM to the matrix (at best). The idea here is not really that it's "me" as an individual the matrix "wants", but that the current status quo (whether humans as batteries, or men as beta slaves) has a strong impetus (which I described as a want/desire) to keep things as they are or were.

the matrix wants me back

I think this part is obvious but of course refers to the movie analogy (matrix as a system for keeping people subservient) or TRP (the current system where things like "divorce rape" have been on the rise for years).

So I am not saying that some attractive seductress is trying to tempt me back into her bosom or that I am somehow valued by "the matrix". I am saying that the system wishes to remain in control and that I am outside of it.

There isn't much more positive stuff to my account name and that's because when I registered it, I was crying out for help because being a beta or taking the BP slowly destroys who you are as a person. I finally realized that there were other voices of wisdom and reason when I discovered TRP but I had no idea how to begin or integrate - being new to reddit (and ignorant) I somehow missed the sidebar content.

As a side note... Since then of course, I've made plans to start working out with a neighbor this week, I've purchased WISNIFG and NMMNG and been reading/listening to them, as well as lurking and reading and learning from others here.

Maybe I should change my username. It's too bad reddit doesn't let you do this without creating a new one or this would be a pretty trivial decision. After revising your post, do you have any specific or updated thoughts on my user name specifically?

Redneck001 · 2015-06-29T13:19:45+00:00

While I appreciate your effort, I'm just not buying a lot of this. IMO, its overthinking. Its not action-oriented.

Carefully choosing my throwaway? Telling me what I should listen to? Who I should read? I sought my wife's validation for years. I'm done with seeking validation.

Just be an awesome dude that girls are attracted to.

Title	Micro-Steps to Unplugging
Author	thisisme0007
Upvotes	13
Comments	28
Date	June 26, 2015 2:38 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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