It's that time of the year I 'spose. Anniversary posts are sure to be ever flowing the next months. I will get mine in early. I am not the most active MRP'er. Not because I am super alpha and above everyone, but I simply travel alot for my job and work long hours. Still, I keep coming back and reading. Most of you recognize me as the lifter of heavy things and shit test passing ace. Yet I still see myself as merely a novice.

When did you start?

March 13th, 2015, a Friday. I was served divorced papers from my stay at home wife. Floored isn't really the right word for it. Pole-axed maybe. This came from seemingly no where and I couldn't believe. Although at the time I had no idea about this pill people called Red. I had began the journey that weekend. Single men need to be attractive and I was total dad bod. I hit the gym and started lifting weights and doing cardio.

It's worth noting that on March 13th this year. The sadness I felt at her betrayal was non-existent in her, as if it never happened.

How I found MRP?

Found a link in deadbedrooms, or divorce, dont really remember exactly.

How Did you swallow the pill?

Browsed for a month or so and let the information sink in. My willingness to swallow wasnt as hard as finding the right way to ingest it. If you look around here as a new person, you can quickly see for yourself how difficult it is to start. My proverbial swallowing of the pill was /u/theultmatecad actually started me on the right path. The /u/jacktenofhearts gave me the first book to read. /u/whinemoreplease taught me that my wife can be a partner and has spent many a long hours counselling me on marriage strategy. /u/stonepimpletilists taught everyone that you can hit the reset button on life. There are many others here who have been instrumental in my journey and they know who they are.

In my personal life I am known for two things. Patience for days, and I can find a whisper in a whirlwind. Two important traits I would learn is necessary for MRP.

What did MRP do to help you?

  • Always Lift Heavy Weights
  • Be attractive, don't be unattractive
  • That I can be happy with my life
  • Marriage doesnt mean a life of negativity
  • Mentoring two MRP'ers has helped me understand myself
  • My wife is my partner, if not, next her
  • My life went from boring to awesome
  • Social life is now abundant
  • Dread is healthy and productive
  • You can set boundaries and say no
  • There is two theories to arguing with a woman. Neither one works.

What did MRP do for your marriage?

My post here at https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3fc5xq/theory_how_to_build_your_road_to_safety/ pretty much describes how I put the information together and attacked my shitty marriage. Although, I improvised and used Sun Tzu as an MRP book. I still count it as a MRP success. My marriage today is on good terms and by that I mean my terms only. I lead, she follows, and we are all happy because of it. My life outside of the marriage grew and she encouraged that. The occasional shit tests happen, but they have largely given way to comfort tests. Instead of the shrill harpy of a wife disrespecting me at every turn has turned into "Thank you for being an awesome husband and father".

What do you not like about MRP?

Many a gentlemen will peruse the sub and look for their ace in the hole, shortcut, or some other tactic they think is a single tool. Let's just all be reminded that if you cut your own firewood it'll warm you twice.

Not all aspects of MRP work in every situation. There is a real system of trial and error. Finding what works and keeping that should be a whole book in and of itself.

One thing you could tell someone new to their journey?

Leading your family is hard damned work so make sure you are up to the task.