I was close. I thought I would finally make it through PMS time without a shit test. Wishful thinking, but progress none the less.

I need to own something first. I am at my weakest with A&A, fogging, ignoring and changing the subject etc. first thing in the mornings. In other words my frame is fragile first thing in the morning. It is something I really need to work on.

So yesterday morning the following PMS shit test ensued. My wife asked if I would move the wash from the washer to the dryer while she was doing other housework. Sure, I did it to help. But somehow, without me knowing it, the dryer didn't start.

So five minutes later, she checks the wash and the clothes are moved, but the dryer is not turned on. She comes to me and demands in a parent/child like way that I return to the garage and turn the dryer on. Fuck that, I don't do condescending demands, and if I did concede to her demand what would she think then?

I told her she can start the dryer. I am not doing it. (Insert here where A&A would have been a better approach). Shit storm hurricane ensues. She yells and screams in front of our kids. She tries to take some headphones I was holding out of my hands to throw at me. She is too weak to do that, so she grabs a glass of water and throws it at me, spilling it everywhere. Then she throws some laundry she had folded at me. She is out of control.

I look at her and calmly tell her this is no way to act in front of our kids and she owes them and me an apology, that she needs to clean up the mess, and then I leave the room to take a shower and get ready to do thinks I plan on taking care of for the day. (Before the red pill, I would have completely lost my shit here, now I stayed calm like an oak).

I get out of the shower and she comes to me. She has already apologized to the kids and says she is sorry to me. I acknowledge the apology, don't harp on her behavior, and leave the house with one of the kids to go to the store.

She is all over me the rest of the day. I am playful with her, but also give her no special perks (like a coke she wanted me to buy her from the store, flowers from the grocery store which I usually buy Sundays (not as an expectation for sex), and I focus on the kids and my activities the rest of the day). I also applied some dread later that night, needed to go to the office for an hour.

Lessons:

First, her initial behavior is completely unacceptable. But I know I cannot change her, I need to continue working on myself and hopefully she will learn that emotional outbursts like this will result in nothing good for her and make her look like an idiot.

Second, by not reacting emotionally myself and removing myself after giving orders, she realized her behavior was shitty and actually apologized to the kids and me, something she never would have done before my self improvement. She also cleaned up all the mess she made and continued with her housework. She was pleasant to be around the rest of the day, and during the first couple of days of her period she was great too.

Not perfect yet, but progress.

PS. Lifting is a godsend. Her folks are in town, and they can't stop talking about the way I look. Also, I am not changing my plans because they are in town, taking care of myself first. I love this Red Pill stuff.