Question about saying no

cj_aubrey · 2016-01-30T06:51:45+00:00

When I say No I Feel Guilty has some pointers on this.

ford_contour · 2016-01-30T05:46:17+00:00

I would just make better, more mutually enjoyable plans in advance. Take the helm, steer the relationship to somewhere you both enjoy being.

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2016-01-30T06:51:01+00:00

It's impossible to answer your question because you haven't actually stated what your problem is. Obviously the way to say no is to just say no. But you already know this. What you're really asking is how to deal with whatever unpleasant thing makes you afraid to say no. But you never told us what that unpleasant thing is for you.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-01-30T13:20:59+00:00

Why is saying no hard? Saying it is easy, what about the followthrough bothers you?

opening_eyes · 2016-01-30T14:00:13+00:00

Does she try to involve you at the bar with her friends? Or are you just the sober taxi?

BluepillProfessor · 2016-01-30T20:46:27+00:00

I am pretty sure there is a book on the sidebar that answers this question. You are free to ask about that book's ideas or alternatives but start with the COURSE PREREQUISITES

On the sidebar>>>>>>>>>>>

zxDanKwan · 2016-01-30T07:06:15+00:00

Is it possible she's trying to show you off to her social circle?

If you're following the RP path, your smv is going up, and the only reason she's with you is to improve her own standing, especially socially.

Someone else said make plans and take the helm. That is the right answer. However, you should occasionally allow her to show you off.

Just make it playfully clear you recognize that is what she is doing, and since she has behaved you'll allow her to do it.

My wife takes me to heavy metal concerts because that's where her friends hang out. I don't enjoy the music, but I make sure she enjoys her time, and I always put on a good show for her social circle. Always, and I mean ALWAYS, ends well for me.

Scurvemuch · 2016-01-30T13:48:48+00:00

step one : realize you created this problem by saying yes all the time in the past , so now changing the rules is you being mad at her or some crap.

step two: What is it about going out to bars that attracts her so much to it? figure out a better substitute and turn it into some time with her.

step three- Do you feel guilty for saying no? if so then why?

TheOakenshield · 2016-01-30T23:37:27+00:00

Hey all, I've been lurking here a long time. I've read the sex god method and a few other things.

There is a reason that SGM is not listed in the prereq's and When I Say No I Feel Guilty Is. Guys come in here wanting to improve the bedroom and jump to stuff like SGM, they skip the hard stuff for the fun stuff.

Title	Question about saying no
Author	liteasair
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	January 30, 2016 5:01 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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