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2 Ideas to help build the subreddit (For our Mod(s))

August 4, 2021

Hi there,

Glad to see a new sub is being created for men's support. I want to have my chance to help differentiate the sub from previous ones and potentially give it long-term value. So here's two broad ideas I have for how men can get the most benefit from the sub.

Idea 1: Monthly Events

- Art Therapy: have users submit drawings, songs, paintings, creative writing or other crafts that communicate whatever emotions are most present in their lives, regardless of skill, level. I personally love digital art and would like to share pieces related to masculinity and wellbeing.

- Books and Films: have users watch a particular movie each month that's connected in some way to masculinity. My personal favorite is "The Grey" 2011. Have users read a novel or academic monograph that is similarly connected. Frantz Fannon's The Wretched of the Earth goes into detail about how incapacitating trauma can be for men during armed conflicts.

- Video Game Meet-Ups: Create monthly threads where users can arrange their own online meet-ups on whatever popular video games are out at the time (thinking COD Warzone, Apex Legends, Halo Infinite, or even smaller indie games like Stardew Valley or party games like Mario Party). Having opportunities to socialize like this have never been more important than during this pandemic.

Idea 2: Online Men's Skill Share

- Have a monthly mega thread dedicated to having users share life skills with other users such as how to change a tire, how to mount a window AC unit, how to find the correct tax forms in your jurisdiction, or more specialized things like how to get into wood-working, how to cook certain recipes, tips for learning to code video games. Heck, I remember reading a post on this site where a user with severe anxiety needed help figuring out how to order from subway. I think having a non-judgmental space where people can get some brotherly practical guidance will keep people coming back here.

Thanks for reading!

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[–]Arguesovereverythin 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn, this is a really good idea. I could see this helping a lot of men live healthier lives.

[–]peanutbutterjams 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This is incredible. I love the idea of art therapy. It feels like something I need but didn't know I needed it until now. Also a great way to motivate me to work on my (very basic) digital art.

Also into video game meetups and skillsharing.

This post made me realize that men can support men just doing things together like this. So many men are socially isolated or stuck with friends who don't understand the idea of emotional honesty or a supportive environment.

I think implementing these ideas would set a unique tone for the sub, /u/a-man-from-earth. I appreciate your Reddit workload, though. While I can't offer to organize, I would definitely like to participate when one of these happen.

If I can make a suggestion, what if you did Art Therapy as a monthly challenge with a specific theme? It can be any form of art as long as it expresses the theme in a new and interesting way.

People post their masterpieces and we can use votes to sort who 'best represented the theme in a new and interesting way.

The forums of Order of the Stick (webcomic, doesn't matter) used to do an "Iron Poet" competition along these lines. It was pretty popular and a good way to motivate you to create.

I once wrote a poem while I had an infected tooth. I was up all night with the pain anyways and the poem was due the next day so I just described the pain in as many creative ways as possible. I didn't win, but I didn't lose either.

You can use a random theme generator, encourage people to create outside their medium - or to create for the first time, maybe have guest speakers with expertise in art history and challenge people to use this style for the first time.

Men creating art and sharing it with each other is support. The more light we create, the less space darkness has to fester aw fuck it I'll do it.

[–]Extra_Spider_Silk[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

A lot of good ideas right here 👆. I’ve found for myself that art of any kind requires people exercise a level of self awareness and mindfulness that normal conversation doesn’t usually facilitate. I’d like to hear your poetry about your tooth and any others you’ve written.

[–]peanutbutterjams 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've never really written anything else. I was frustrated with poetry because I just wanted to say the things I wanted to say without having to do what I saw (no offense to poets) 'dandying it up'.

Eventually I found creative non-fiction and I'm much happier for it.

But thanks for asking to see it! I haven't read it in years and I'm much happier about it now than I was then.


My Dentist Loves Me (And I Love Him)


My teeth have turned into testicles

and tiny drunken frat boys are giving them a twist

My pain flares

and his phone blares

I love my dentist

and he loves me


Morbidly obese centipedes have begun to ice-skate on my nerves

and I stumble into his office at a list

I'm limp and shaking spastically

and he's beaming beatifically

I do love my dentist

and he does love me


I rave about tiny loggers and the deforestation of my old growth nerves

and he nods as his retirement fund draws interest

He sets me on my favourite chair

and I'm huddling like Lennie's hare

I really do love my dentist

and he really does love me


For you see

He has drugs


and he's willing to share.


He stabs and squirts thrice

I'm thinking life's been a slice

But dawn breaks

and pain pulls up stakes

So I pull him into a kiss for the bell he unrung

and then add a little bit of tongue


My dentist loves me

and I love my dentist


and now he knows just how much I care.




P.s., I've gone ahead and started the monthly art challenge so would love it if you could submit something for September 1st. I'd love to see some of your digital art.

The theme is Summer Haze.

[–]Extra_Spider_Silk[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is an amazing poem, dude! It's full of fantastic descriptors, and I like that it mixes the emotional, like the sense of gratitude communicated, with the ordinary, like a dentist appointment. Going to the dentist is strange for me too these days. It used to be "You're clean as a whistle, see you in 6 months", but now it's become "well, we'll need you to come in every 3 months just to make sure what's going on doesn't become much worse." Seeing those x-rays of my teeth really reminds of my mortality and how time's passing by.

I'll submit something by the end of the month. Interesting theme, especially during wildfire season!

[–]peanutbutterjams 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks so much! I've had enough x-rays of my teeth at this point that my head gives off a faint glow at night.

Looking forward to your submission!

[–]a-man-from-earth[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Great ideas indeed! Would you like to start things off with choosing one of these and setting it in motion?

[–]Extra_Spider_Silk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure thing, I’ll start us off with some art therapy and see where is goes. Thanks!

[–]Algoresball 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Great ideas! I’d be concerned with causing the word “therapy” if it’s not being conducted by a licensed therapist. But the idea is great idea

[–]Extra_Spider_Silk[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That’s a good point. I’m sure we can call it something else like art expression.

[–]Algoresball 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I really like the way “art expression” sounds! I hope this gets off the ground.

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