I just spent 12 hours straight playing Destiny 2

Nightwynd · 2023-04-09T06:59:43+00:00

Brother, sometimes you just gotta slow down and chill. Binge a show, watch a movie. You worked super hard, so you gotta take a bit of time to unwind and relax. If that's a 12hr marathon of a game then so be it! You deserved those 12 hours of not dealing with life and work.

If you're wanting new friends to hang out with sometimes... May I recommend finding a local ttrpg group? A board game cafe is good too if there is one. Gets you out of the house, dressed reasonably well, having a good time with a small group of people. If you have a regular day off it gets a lot easier. Lots of ttrpg's looking for players online if there's nothing local. I like these because it doesn't feel like a grind at all, just a shared narrative experience with similar(ish) minded people.

Tldr...dont beat yourself up over your down time. We all need it sometimes, some of us more often than others.

Poisson-Soluble · 2023-04-09T07:33:14+00:00

The same thing happened to me some months ago, so I can see the feeling of "what am I doing with my life". So few things : - first, don't be too harsh on yourself, these things happen, it was just a day, it happened to a lot of us too. - this said, I don't know if it's gonna help, but here is an image that grew with me :

You can see your life as a table. The point is : you don't want it to fall. So you need table legs. Each one is a thing that is important to you and maintain you : friends, family, job, etc. Like a real table, you need to have many, at least 3, or it will not be balanced. Right know you seems in need to find a new one : you have some time where you kinda feel lonely, so you spend all of it in games (at least this is how it feels reading you)

What's difficult is that a table leg isn't purely dependant on your will, you have to feel like you can rest on it. So it is quite hard to build a new one, because for some time, it will be fragile.

terriblepersoninside · 2023-04-10T06:40:39+00:00

The two other blokes here are legends, don’t beat yourself up.

As for a new hobby, I can’t recommend fishing enough! I’ve found the learning new techniques and knot tying practice to be wonderfully calming before you even start actually fishing. Whether it’s a local lake, beach, river, out on a boat, just being outside and having an activity to focus on really gives your subconscious time to process other things. I’ve also noticed first hand that other men seem to open up a lot more about their thoughts and feelings than if they were just sitting, having a chat. Either get a mate into it with you or look up a local fishing club. Like any new hobby it’ll take a bit of time to build new connections but it’s so worth it.
Finally, if you are able to fish rivers or the ocean, fresh fish is really really good for your mental and physical health.

iammoans · 2023-04-10T17:20:41+00:00

Are you a hunter main?

Seriously though, don't be too hard on yourself. You seem to be doing a lot of things right.

DragemD · 2023-04-10T21:54:49+00:00

Just my 2 cents,

There is nothing wrong with a weekend of video games just, keep up with your responsibilities, and personal hygiene. Get on to some coop gaming and make friends that way.

Im 52 and didn't play VG's for about 30 years, but after my divorce, it was a great way to detox from my ex and I really enjoy it now.

One thing I do have 2 instances of a game. One to play through normally and another that I mod the shit out of. I find it very interesting to see what I can get away with and how I can change the game. And I've actually learned a thing or two about how games work.

Another thing I do is build retro gaming consoles. Either modifying old consoles like the original Xbox so that it has a 4tb drive and double the onboard ram to things like Retro-Pi consoles and customs PSP's.

I also got into 3D printing and enjoy making things from the games I love playing. Again, I get to have fun and learn something new. I actually know my way around cad software pretty well now and get requests all the time to make things for friends and family.

Lastly, enjoy your down time regardless of what you do. As long as you're not hiding in the basement you'll be fine.

mighty3mperor · 2023-04-10T23:52:57+00:00

Gym, music, walks, it all is nice but I can't spend 12 hours doing it without it getting drab/exhausting.

To be fair most things will get a bit dull if you do them for 12 hours straight. You could try a smorgasbord of hobbies rather than one long stretch at any one.

There are solo RPGs and board games with a solo option. You could try and get others involved in playing too.

Or someone else mentioned 3D printing - you could print stuff for games, assemble and paint them. So you are doing a variety of different activities that use a variety of skills but they are all for the same hobby goal.

All that said, blowing off half a day to play video games isn't a big deal, as long as you have all your other responsibilities covered. Sometimes just switching off, closing the curtains on the world and doing your own thing is exactly what you need to do. It's only if you were doing this a lot and neglecting some other area of your life that it might be a concern - it could be some kind of displacement activity that's you are distracting yourself with rather than doing some important task. You see self-aware enough to be able to spot if this is happening though.

fuckboyretard · 2023-04-13T05:05:51+00:00

I found climbing to be helpful. It feels great completing a route or planning one out and completing it. Plus mentally it allows me an ease of mind that’s powerful. Plus you’re getting a workout with it!

Title	I just spent 12 hours straight playing Destiny 2
Author	PickleJewler
Upvotes	30
Comments	9
Date	April 9, 2023 5:54 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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