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I'm so broken

September 25, 2021

I just really need someone to talk to. I never experienced heartbreak before and its fucking eating me in the inside. I don't know what Im doing anymore, i just entered my 20s and im fucking terrified. I barely have any support and its killing me that I get at most 1 message a day from someone. Fuck man. It hurts so much.

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Title I'm so broken
Author overdramatic21231
Upvotes 51
Comments 12
Date September 25, 2021 8:21 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
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[–]Damsa_draws_stuff 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You'll always find someone to talk to at a place like this.

You are young, you have a lot to look forward to in life. Don't let yourself be defined by a relationship. Make peace with yourself and be the best person you see yourself to be. You will get a partner eventually, find someone who makes you want to be a better person, but, until then, make sure you are enough for yourself.

If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. I can't promise to answer soon, but I will answer as soon as i am able

[–]a-man-from-earth 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I remember my first break-up. It was devastating.

Give yourself time. Look for male friends to hang out with, if circumstances allow. This is gonna hurt for a while, but you can get thru this. Keep yourself occupied, so you don't think about it all the time. Play games, listen to music, go exercise. Make sure you eat well. And if you resort to alcohol, don't overdo it and make things worse.

And whenever you want to vent, you're always welcome here. We've got your back.

[–]LettuceBeGrateful 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey man, heartbreak is awful. I'm totally with you.

Something that helped me weather the storm was the knowledge that someday, in the future, I would feel better. That doesn't mean you should just "get over it" or ignore those feelings. Fighting feelings doesn't generally allow them to leave.

Just maybe try to take some comfort in the fact that there is a day in your future when you'll wake up and surprise with the thought: "You know, this isn't gonna hurt me anymore."

You can do this!

[–]Apexander1 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get used to it. Get comfortable in your own skin, the fact that you're upset about getting 1 message a day is a little silly to me. You're so much stronger than you realise, you are not broken. Your worth is not defined by if you can get a girlfriend or if you can get laid or how many people message you.

[–]surrealstrength 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Heartbreaks are devastating man. I was dumped during my exams and a year later i was a rebound for a girl who wasn't over her ex. But as Bob Ross said, you need light and dark. Very soon you'll find yourself in the good times. But if you want some constructive advice- 1. Fix your routine 2. Work on your skills 3. Learn something new 4. Talk to someone you are comfortable with eg friends,a sibling, you could even reach out to me or anyone here who is open to a conversation 5. Socialize in your workplace,a gym. Just a hi followed by a question about what they are doing is good. I tried it many times and it works. Most times people just want to talk to someone.

This experience that you're going through, if handled well, will leave you a better person than you were before

[–]primitiveboomstick 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Late to the post, but I know how this feels and it sucks. Mostly because you’re young and it’s the first time.

Few things: first, understand that this will take some time to get over, and that’s ok. If you got over it immediately, it never really meant anything to you to begin with. 2nd, do your best to learn from it, so you’re better equipped for your next relationship. 3rd, and this is a big one, work on yourself while you grieve so you’re not letting someone else take total control over your well-being.

Wish you the best, man.

[–]SgtRinzler 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Work on yourself big man. This is the prime time of your life to do so. Distract yourself with self-betterment and before you know it you'll be able to love yourself, which is so powerful.

[–]UnHope20 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

That's great advice. But you know what else he needs right....?

[–]SgtRinzler 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think he be missing one a dese 👑

[–]UnHope20 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Respect to you brother. You've had some rough times. Props to you for surviving. You dropped this 👑

[–]Acta_Tabula 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Brother, if you want to cry, don't hold it in, just let it out. It's okay to show your emotions as a man. Additionally, heartbreaks are normal when it comes to relationships. You should consider this past relationship as a valuable experience for future relationships. I'm sure you can definitely find someone better than her in the future. Don't give up! You only lose when you give up after all! Lastly, you can let me know in dms if you need someone to vent about your anger and frustration.

[–]cravin_mor 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The others gave a pretty good overview in what you can do :)

but I just wanna help you in providing you the opportunity to write me DM's if you want to have a chat. That way, we can eliminate the situation of only getting one msg a day!

Just to make it clear, I am genuinely offering you to make a friendship possible, so if you are up to it, take action (as life always demands ^^) and say hello in the DM's

Others, who read this also can feel free to DM me and let us see, where the conversation is going.

From smalltalk to deep conversations, I am up for it :)

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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