Is it possible to become a 'high value man'?

Cyb3rd31ic_Citiz3n · 2024-09-02T18:55:59+00:00

Seriously, that mindset is going to set you up to fail. It'll make you really unhappy as you'll never feel like a real "alpha" (hint - no such thing).

Additionally, look at how many men there are in the world. Are all the ones who are happy "high value" males?

Yeah, exactly. It'll make you ill chasing that mentality. You need to learn to firstly be happy with who you are now and then set yourself a life plan. Aim at that and you'll meet people on the same route along the way

Forsaken_Hat_7010 · 2024-09-02T20:07:48+00:00

What do you understand by that? Usually, becoming a “high value man” is not about becoming better or more attractive, but about commoditizing yourself; reducing your “value” to those resources you can provide, and becoming a provider according to traditional gender roles.

That might attract “high value women,” who will appreciate you only as much as you can give them.

It's up to you to decide what you want or how you live your life, but I strongly encourage you to be wary of messages from “pick-up artists” and the like. Too many people have ended up in relationships where they feel empty and miserable because of them.

Crunch-Potato · 2024-09-02T20:03:50+00:00

What would make you high value?

TheMadWoodcutter · 2024-09-02T18:39:15+00:00

If you ever want to be happy in your life you need to cut that manosphere shit out asap. Its just teaching you to be a malignant narcissist.

ConfusedAsHecc · 2024-09-02T21:51:20+00:00

the only thing that could make someone "high" or "low" valued (whatever the fuck that means) is dependant on the effort you put into your self and the things you care about.

like fuck what influencers say, think about it like this: if youre out there trying to put your best foot forward, taking care of youre self (mental and physical), and doing what makes you happy then youre high valued. it does NOT matter what you look like, how you dress, or any material good. what matters if being yourself and living life to the fullest.

influencers that brand themselves on the "high vs low value" are just trying to steal your time and take your money. you might think your getting help from them but they are only interested in making bank off youre insecurities.

atlas1888 · 2024-09-03T02:11:28+00:00

Well High value is relative. I encourage you to do some soul searching and see what you actually want from life. Are you trying to be more successful in your field of work? Are you wanting to start new hobby that you had an interest in? It all depends on what you are trying to do. My advice is ask yourself what it is you are actually trying to do. If you want to make more money go back to school or get a certification and work towards a promotion. If you want more adventures then go picking to a cool place. Do all this things for yourself not for anyone else. Cheer up mate. Life is hard and we all have high and lows. Life is what you choose to make of it. I encourage you to get out od your comfort zone and try new things. Good luck.

michaelpaoli · 2024-09-03T07:24:14+00:00

high value man

Sounds like somebody's been reading/hearing/watching somebody's bullsh*t.

Be a fine decent person, well take care of yourself, maybe even be well capable of (and willing to) support other(s) (and that doesn't necessarily mean financially or only so). Figure it out from there.

And sure, there will always be some that will select/filter by, e.g. income or net worth or assets or stuff like that ... but that's no guarantee at all that they get a good result ... they may just get a rich or well to do *sshole.

So, yeah, actual solid quality is generally a lot more important than some "high value" bullsh*t. "Of course" not all will see it that way ... and some that won't see it that way will end up rather quickly divorced and with nothing to show for it, or will end up as abuse victims, or find themselves with other major problems and/or disappointment.

darbycrash-666 · 2024-09-02T20:33:19+00:00

Stop watching whoever it is thats spewing that incel shit. Stuff like sexual marketplace (or market value I can never remember), alpha male, high value, money branching, all that stuff is just stupid. It's always great to work on yourself and become a better person but don't do it so you can become a "high value man" in the eyes of other people. Do it for yourself. Money's great but it's not the most important thing, that kind of thinking will turn you into a toxic person.

Skirt_Douglas · 2024-09-06T02:12:19+00:00

My friend, you are trying to impress the worst of the worst kind of women with this “how do I be a high value man” talk. Forget about what toxic influencers have to say, live your life for you. If you want to have more ambition and climb the social ladder then do it on your own terms, make your money to build YOUR life, don’t do it to impress a chronically online demographic of woman who sees you as an ATM machine.

SexOnABurningPlanet · 2024-09-02T20:46:13+00:00

I think you're talking about the late Kevin Samuels. He defined a 'high value man' as someone making 100k or more a year. If you're asking if your life changes with more money, including romantic relationships, then the answer of course is yes. I have progressively made more money as my career has advanced and the kind of women that wouldn't look my way now stare at me. That doesn't automatically make them gold diggers. It is simply a fact that the amount of money you make determines your lifestyle: trips to another country vs a road trip to the country. Driving a Lexus vs a Hyundai. Access to certain social clubs vs hanging around the same old people. Making money from income vs investments. Etc.

This doesn't mean you have to wait until you have a bunch of money to date a decent woman. But it does mean that all else being equal--your hygiene, looks, personality, etc--having more money will expand the pool of women that will even consider dating you. A homeless woman probably wouldn't mind dating a homeless man, but a woman making 30k a year is probably not going to date a homeless man; and a woman making 150k a year is probably not going to date a man making 30k a year. It's a harsh truth, and a reflection of the deeply unequal society we live in. That being said, this is not inevitable. If a decent woman of any income wants to date you, then go for it; if you're making more money and find a decent woman that's not making much, then go for it. But for the most part people tend to date within their class.

Poly_and_RA · 2024-09-02T23:46:25+00:00

That redpill nonsense is toxic and won't ever make you happy. Instead it'll make you bitter and hateful.

Is it possible for a perfectly ordinary man to have a variety of loving, sexy, adventurous and amazing relationships? Yes absolutely.

You don't need any redpill bullshit for any of that though.

Title	Is it possible to become a 'high value man'?
Author	John-Walker-1186
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Date	September 2, 2024 6:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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