Am I screwed?

grandmasbroach · 2019-10-01T21:36:30+00:00

I only needed to read the first three words, mid 30s male. Yes, you're fucked.

Historybuffman · 2019-10-01T22:42:47+00:00

Look outside America, outside the feminist-majority countries. I always thought myself weird because I dated women in the US, found some attractive, but was never fully on board with it.

I got stationed in southern Spain and the women were not afraid to be feminine and unashamed. It was... foreign to me. Then, I realized that women where I am from often act like men and that is what turned me off. Nothing against homosexuals, but I am just not attracted to men or women who act in a masculine style. I wanted a wife that was feminine and proud of it. Who didn't think she was looked down on for being a woman, or felt inferior to men.

My wife, when we met, was in a short black dress and looking very beautiful. She could hold a conversation and actually interested in some of my interests. She wasn't one of those chicks who think that their looks are all they need, and the ground they walk on should he worshipped.

She, like I, believe the genders complement each other. We should work together rather than pick petty fights between us.

It helps that she swings between believing feminism is a supremacist movement and just a bunch of people whining about stupid shit. It's hot.

that-guy-with-art · 2019-10-02T00:52:49+00:00

I'm not sure, I'm not an oracle, but I can say one thing:

Dont commit suicide. Its not worth it. Think of what you could do in life, judging by your description of yourself, you have lots of potential. Keep going, dig a little more and you might find gold.

I sincerely hope you're life goes well, have a beautiful day.

DemocratTears2020 · 2019-10-02T02:27:25+00:00

Don't "settle down", because the first word is "settle". All of these used up skanks are just looking for excuses for their disgusting behavior all throughout their lives. And, yes, AWALT - they just need to get you legally obligated to pay them for the rest of your life.

Niki_Biryani · 2019-10-02T04:20:15+00:00

The bigger question is, what have you done to improve yourself? Give it two years, that's all the transformation you need to find a keeper. Delete all the Apps, go monk modes, Hit the Gym 4-5 times a week, lift heavy, practice kegel exercises, build your career, and practice talking to girls outside of the Apps. Two years later, you'll be transformed into the person that the girls would want to date, your confidence would skyrocket and you'll be a different person and really happy.

springy · 2019-10-02T06:03:48+00:00

Don't get married. Don't have babies. Both of those ensure the woman has you by the balls. And will lead to you, almost certainly, losing your house, children, savings, and dignity. Leaving you with regrets and bills.

flow2high · 2019-10-02T07:04:33+00:00

smile welcome potential new r/MGTOW -brother...

EvilLothar · 2019-10-02T13:34:55+00:00

Keep on asking those questions. It's the only way you're going to ferret out the bad apples and let you know to stay away.

ninja_deli · 2019-10-01T21:50:54+00:00

Not ALL women are like this to that degree. I'm early 30s and found someone who very much leans feminist as a knee jerk reaction, BUT is also willing to listen and examine opposing views honestly. Much of this is due to her culture and upbringing, which I think that we have to understand as well. As much as men have reasons for thinking what we do, so do some women. She is also willing to admit when she is wrong. Most women nowadays are indoctrinated to some degree by feminism. The key now is finding who is willing to listen and try and understand where we are coming from and not dismiss us outright. Anyone that is willing to listen can change their mind.

benderXX · 2019-10-01T23:48:51+00:00

Take your time. The biggest mistake people make are those decisions made in haste. If it feels wrong leave fast and leave early. Never back down if you are being made to feel disrespected. If you don’t have respect and equality you don’t have a relationship to begin with. You are someone’s job substitute, their insurance policy, their life hack. You deserve better.

TRexCantDab · 2019-10-01T22:15:45+00:00

If you're bringing this up within the first 1-3 dates, I would say you are pushing it too much. Take time to develop a relationship with the other person. Get to know them and then start talking about your "deeper" concerns. Once a relationship is built, the other person will be more likely to understand your viewpoint a little better since they might know enough about you where they don't just jump to " I'm an idiot or a monster for not realizing how difficult women have it."

ThisFreedomGuy · 2019-10-01T21:29:00+00:00

You're fine.

Finding the right one takes time, at some point it's a numbers game. At other points it's an adventure. At others still, it's a tough match through knee deep crap. That's where you are now. It'll get better.

OrionTheWolf · 2019-10-02T01:07:43+00:00

With me too there were some real pieces of shit that were taken down, like Weinstein, maybe try conceding that and then proceed into the witch trials it became, olive branches can help people become more agreeable to logic because you’re not saying they’re completely wrong. That makes some people feel stupid and double down on the propaganda

azazelcrowley · 2019-10-01T21:48:14+00:00

Most women are not feminists, only around 1/4th are.

CanadianAsshole1 · 2019-10-01T22:15:40+00:00

How tall are you bro?

Ody_ssey · 2019-10-02T07:01:44+00:00

I can see your future paying child support and alimony if you get married to her. Why do you want to settle down with a radical feminist? Doesn't that answer your question the negative qualities you have written about her?

BastaHR · 2019-10-02T09:08:52+00:00

If you're suicidal now, wait till you get a woman.

homo_redditorensis · 2019-10-03T05:42:54+00:00

Obligatory, toxic masculinity doesn't mean men are toxic. But by all means, dont let something as silly as actual definitions change your mind lol

DevilishRogue · 2019-10-01T21:02:34+00:00

Not all women are unpleasant, shallow and selfish. And plenty that are can be socialised out of it if they are intelligent enough. Even in cities there are diverse views if you persist. Perhaps change up where you are meeting women? But, no, you're not screwed.

DISOBEDIENCEBITCHES · 2019-10-01T22:55:05+00:00

Have you tried asking this:

What do ALL people who treat others horrible have in common?

A) a certain sex B) a certain race C) a certain sexual orientation D) a certain class E) a certain religion F) none of the above, they only have one thing ALL in common and that is that they don't respect other people's rights and freedom. The group of 'toxic" and violent people is EXTREMELY divers - and luckily quite small.

If you ask an intelligent person this and the answer is not F), then run. If the answer is F) then you can go from there:

'So maybe instead of pretending the other sex or another race or whatever group is characterized by it's very few worst individuals, can we say that most women are not gold diggers and most men are not toxic rapists?

Can we say that in fact most women are amazing at all kinds of things and likewise most men do a tremendous job of building and protecting others?

Yes? Then let's not blame entire groups of billions for the deeds of a tiny percentage. Can we agree on that?'

If a woman, or a man for that matter, can't agree to that, then I don't even know what to say...

Title	Am I screwed?
Author	sicp4lyfe
Upvotes	29
Comments	61
Date	October 1, 2019 8:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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