Nobody deserves to be treated badly for features that are out of their control. Even if it’s within your control, you still don’t deserve to be treated badly for how you look.

Women talk about ways body-shaming affects them in regard to things like weight gain, sagging skin, aging, imperfections etc.

Here’s the thing: women generally care significantly less about if a guy has a slightly ugly face, or if he’s a little chubby. However men are often shamed, judged and compartmentalized for other things that are beyond our control.

For example, short guys are often the butt of jokes and stereotyped as being angry and insecure ‘manlets’; guys are shamed for their dick size and assumed they’re always trying to overcompensate; men are treated badly when they start balding even just for getting a buzzcut - in fact there’s plenty of examples of hot guys getting a buzzcut and getting told now they’re ugly/ruined their appearance. Guys who are really skinny are viewed as less masculine, etc.

It seems that guys are shamed quite a lot actually for a perceived lack of masculine traits that is often much influenced by our parents’ genes.

It's pointless to lament on the ways we would’ve liked to look like. However at the very least we can stop tearing guys down for factors beyond our control.

In the same way that a woman doesn’t ‘owe’ society to look skinny and hot to make babies, men don’t ‘owe’ society to be as big and strong as possible to protect and provide. Naturally with billions of men on the planet we’re going to see a spectrum of the ways guys evolve: some cultures place more prioritization on traditional masculinity while others value other things like intellectualism, spirituality, family etc. that make it less crucial in a modern society to be one dimensional brutish males. We can all benefit more from supporting each other and building each others’ confidence rather than letting male beauty standards affect our quality of life.