I lost my virginity when I turned 20. It was mostly lacklustre, but one aspect that stood out as memorable was the fact that she kept saying I was well endowed, even when we weren't having sex. The thing that was interesting though, was how she seemed surprised; as if having a large penis didn't match my personality. For perspective, I was incredibly socially awkward, shy, never even kissed a girl before her. It was like she expected that a guy with a big dick must inherently also be confident and assured of himself in all metrics of life.

As I get older, I notice this same attitude prevalent among the majority of women. If a guy has no self confidence and is incredibly anxious around women - or conversely, if a guy is TOO arrogant in a way where he seems to overestimate his capacity as a man, he is deemed as having 'Small Dick Energy'.

On the flip side, if a guy has a chill, laid back demeanour, and a natural air of confidence in himself, he has "Big Dick Energy".

To me, this is almost a laughable concept. Why can't guys with massive dicks be insecure loud 'desperate to prove something' guys? Why can't guys with small dicks be completely well adjusted and secure in their masculinity? Do women really think our penis size correlates with our confidence in every facet of life, or is it just some type of fun guessing game?