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[–]iainmf 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
IMO the Men's rights movement can not be about trying to re-assert a dominant situation.
It isn't.
That idea comes from feminists like Micheal Flood who only see gender relations as a power game.
[–]dukunt 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This.
Happy Cake Day 🎉!
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Perhaps, but see how even this thread is full of totally non compromising comments already. The hostility is toxic.
[–]iainmf 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
What response did you expect?
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I didn’t know Men’s rights is so full of losers who insist on failing.
[–]mikesteane 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
First:
The hostility is toxic.
Then:
Projection much?
[–]iainmf 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why are you so certain that your way is the right one?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m not.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is exactly what you thought before you made your post, this is what you were thinking when you made your post, and this is what you still think after everyone already told you you're full of it.
Good job learning nothing. And don't worry about us, so long as people like you don't even know what you're arguing against we're going to be just fine.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How do expect to change a persons mind with that hostility?
[–]mikesteane 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How do you? You're the one calling people assholes.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is how we roll in the patriarchy.
[–]Egalitarianwhistle 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's important to be skeptical of Patriarchy talk. It's a form Presentism.
All Men got the vote very shortly before all women... Many women opposed the idea of women voting.
I agree with the spirit of your post. I am for gender equality but the elephants in the room are Blank Slatism and gynocentrism.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
*Most men
You're forgetting selective service.
[–]Jamie1897 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
and genital mutilation
and unequal abortion laws
and alimony and custody
and criminal sentencing
Personally I have to say that the genital mutilation one is the worst. The level of personal damage inflicted on every victim, the valuelessness of male bodies that is implied, the gaslighting of the victims, the legally-enforced sex-discriminating double-standard, and the total irreversibility,and the lack of legal or medical recourse for the victims make it the worst explicitly gendered human rights violation on earth in my book.
[–]Ody_ssey 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
how patriarchy did prevent women from voting
Patriarchy didn't prevent women from voting. The eligibility for voting was with a condition that they had to join war. Women didn't want that.
Even today, men don't have right to vote without signing up for selective service.
[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points-3 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That’s just such a skewed interpretation. Very convenient to this cause, but not accurate at all.
[–]GingerRazz 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Explain how you see it as inaccurate. Dismissing something without evidence or even a logical process doesn't exactly make for an actual point or room for discussion.
[–]pssandwich 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
No, it's the case. A referendum on women's suffrage (in which women were able to vote) was held in Massachusetts in 1895, and very few women bothered to even vote in it. Note: I don't agree with the contents of this article, but it's good to get a contemporary idea of how people felt about women's suffrage. The situation is a lot more nuanced than "patriarchy stopped women from voting." Note further that warfare is explicitly mentioned here.
People at the turn of the century had very different ideas about citizenship than what we have today. In fact, in 1918, two short years before the passage of the 19th amendment, the following passage appeared in a supreme court opinion regarding the constitutionality of selective service:
The highest duty of the citizen is to bear arms at the call of the nation. This duty is inherent in citizenship; without it and the correlative power of the State to compel its performance society could not be maintained.
If society was "patriarchal," why did it grant full citizenship to women while excusing them from a duty that is "inherent in citizenship"?
[–]mikesteane 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You need to justify such a comment.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I posted this to check the temperature of this sub, and so far it’s very toxic here.
[–]pssandwich 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't see any toxicity- could you point me to it? Like, could you link to specific posts you consider "toxic"?
[–]mikesteane 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
culture has over-corrected to some degree
Do you have any evidence that the balance was ever in favour in men?
how patriarchy did prevent women from voting etc
Universal female suffrage was obtained very quickly after universal male suffrage in most countries. We are still awaiting equal military obligations. Patriarchy: doesn't exist.
[–]Jamie1897 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
18 to 21 year old men were still being thrown into the meat-grinder of the Vietnam War as late as 1971 and the 26th Amendment. Whenever anybody says "women only just got the vote 100 years ago!", I reply to them and say that men only got universal sufferage in 1971. And it still isn't truly universal sufferage, given the state of the selective service.
[–]mikesteane 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks Jamie, but I was really hoping for an answer from OP. Doesn't look like I'm going to get one though.
[–]Greg_W_Allan 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
There's no patriarchy.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Well that’s ridiculous. Who started America? The are universally referenced as “The Founding Fathers.” How is that not patriarchy?
[–]Greg_W_Allan 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
That's your proof of patriarchy? You'll need to do a bit better.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Lol that’s just one of many examples. If you guys are in denial about it, good luck with this whole Men’s rights thing. Going absolutely nowhere.
[–]Detective-Efficient 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You have presented an exact total of zero arguments so far. Founding Fathers are dead by the way.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I was curious about Men’s rights, am personally involved in a very contentious divorce custody case in which I am totally dominating against the mother, with help from several very smart women who fully get how the court and welfare systems created many monsters. I’ve been trying to relate to you guys what works right now in court to assert my rights as a man. A real literal situation of a man fighting for his rights, that has been honed over 3 years and winning. I want to share with you what is working now, on the ground, in actual battle. So we can push forward for men’s rights.
But you guys are in some Q anon like trip that is divorced from reality and sadly I can never claim I belong to this group in polite company because it’s a lot of cranks like you.
[–]Detective-Efficient 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
So I guess you won't come up with any arguments for any of your claims? Last time i've seen someone so convinced of something he had absolutely no evidence, and ultimately no ambition to argue, for was with flatearthers. There are idiots here. People have called me out for calling out men, but you simply want to be told you're right or the other party is on crack. No research, no self-education, no evidence - how can people like flatearthers and you still be so confident? Even if they were right, they wouldn't know why.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I don’t need to write a doctoral dissertation to prove something to a total stranger. This is reddit you asshole. We are just shooting the shit. Even if I did you would just toss it in my face so what’s the point.
[–]mikesteane 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
LordCaptainCuba:
"you're all toxic"
Also LordCaptainCuba:
"you asshole"
Oh, asshole is a bad wurd isn’t it. Sowy
[–]Greg_W_Allan 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There are several definitions of "patriarchy". You came up with "founding fathers". Could you be any shallower? By the way the world doesn't end at US borders.
Good point. I grew up in the USA and there is definitely a patriarchy there, particularly in the Bible Belt where I am from. You can say all day, no such thing as patriarchy, and you may be right on some intellectual level, but it flies in the face of everyday life.
[–]Greg_W_Allan 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You've narrowed "patriarchy" to less than 1% of the world's population. Well done.
Which version of patriarchy do you ascribe to? The real world definition which is best described as patrilineal, the womens' lib version which viewed patriarchy as being over-protective towards women or the radical feminist variant in which men collectively hate women and always maltreat them?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
There are 1.2 Billion Roman Catholics on planet earth. That’s about 15.3% of global population.
There are 70 million Catholics in the USA, 21.3% of Americans are Catholics.
Where do you get this 1% figure?
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-21443313
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_Church_in_the_United_States
And not to mention Evangelicals, Baptist’s, Mormons. Women are chattel to them.
If any women had actually done anything of significance, they might have been called "The Founding Parents." But for all their equality, women have made very little contribution to history with the notable exception of those born into power like Elizabeth I and Victoria of England and Isabella I of Spain.
[–]user_miki 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
so needing to take stock of how patriarchy did prevent women from voting etc
You are coming in from a feminist angle here that is not appreciated or recognized.We don't accept or recognize what you just said.It comes from an ignorant,uniformed point of view.
This is another attempt for concern trolling.
The process is like that:
Somebody come here place himself on the higher moral ground above us mortals, and start lectures us what we should or not do.
Well from what I can see the Men’s Rights movement is not making any progress, no inroads into mainstream, basically in the wilderness as movements go, and now I can see why. Just living in denial out here.
This contradicts your other statements about the patriarchy existing.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t know what you think about the patriarchy, but I grew up Catholic. If you don’t know how the Catholic Church works, and how it’s worked for the past sixteen centuries, around the entire world, but as you may know women can’t be priests or Cary any real rank in the Catholic Church. So unless you have some version of history that does not include the church, what am I missing?
Catholicism is the mother-worshipping version of Christianity.
[–]bearstevenlee 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Anecdotes can't prove cause & effect, but they prove events & results (what really happened). It's a denial to ignore anecdotes. The entire fields of history & science are based on observation. It's like ignoring news when news record what really happened.
Ok well anecdotally men do the heavy lifting and women do the feeding.
But we don’t want to be held to that standard forever.
[–]tenchineuro 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tackling the fact that culture has over-corrected to some degree, so needing to take stock of how patriarchy did prevent women from voting etc, but asking what we can do now to level the playing field so that the whining on both sides can end.
This is the feminist narrative, meaningless psychobabble about how women were wronged and men should just get over it.
You should post this to r|menlib, it should get lots of upvotes.
[–]StripedFalafel 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
You've pretty much summed up the MRM position
BUT
patriarchy did prevent women from voting etc
Have you ever seen this patriarchy? It's a perfect example of an unverifiable hypothesis. Best not to mention it - it makes you look like an idiot.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Yes I’ve seen it and I’ve participated in it. I’ve been in high level business meetings with all men, and when the topic of promoting a woman to that level, all the men in power scoff at the idea. I’ve lived that many times, so don’t need to do research on it. I respect your doubt, but no reason to call me an idiot, makes you look like the idiot.
[–]Greg_W_Allan 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve been in high level business meetings with all men, and when the topic of promoting a woman to that level, all the men in power scoff at the idea.
Good on them. Competent people build hierarchies based on ability and skill set rather than class or likeability.
[–]StripedFalafel 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes I’ve seen it
Wow, that's so cool! Did you get a photo? A photo of the patriarchy could be all over the news.
I’ve participated in it
OK, you are definitely my hero. Can you get me an invite to join this patriarchy thing? I would so love to join. I bet they have a wicked secret handshake!
[–]mikesteane 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
What did you do in these meetings?
We generally discuss technology and budget. Topics that women in the office could easily be involved in but for some reason are not.
[–]mikesteane 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
I actually meant you personally. Did you scoff with the others?
No I was the one offering up a female colleague for advancement. I felt she was no less capable than I, but she ruffled feathers. She was too chummy with clients and others got jealous.
But to be clear, in the post “me too” office space, women have the most to fear from other women who are the jealous vindictive type. All the conflict I see in office now are cat fights
[–]mikesteane 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You talked about it happening so many times that you didn't need to do research on it. Now it has become a single example. And you have given very good reason for her application to be scoffed at.
Why should we believe you when your position changes all time and you refuse to provide evidence except for unverifiable things you claim to have seen and which change as the thread continues?
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Because if I gave evidence I would have to send you my whole identity. I think on reddit, evidence for things would be citing laws, or citing a persons quote, I’m giving an anecdote if what I see bc this is reddit not journalism
But you are contradicting yourself all over the place, in addition to misrepresenting your original intention in posting here, which is not, as you claim, because you are interested in the MRM, which you would do by reading rather than posting.
I’m learning to no longer be interested in the MensRights sub reddit. I feel like Rick, in the council of Ricks. Feel like I’m the only person here who actually knows anything about Men’s Rights in actual life to solve the very real problems of women taking advantage of us. So much self pity and incel Q type thinking for me. So I’m Audi5000
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