"All a man has to do to never get laid is nothing". This quote stuck to me, as it's painfully true. As a man, from my experience, unless you are proactive and doing all the work in the dating game from finding women, approaching them, competing with other men, facing rejection..., you'll never get anything or anyone.
Aside how much I hate that this is the standard form in society, that men do all the work and are at the mercy to be rejected by women who are granted that spot on the pedestal simply on the merit of existing, even that has been rendered almost impossible. You once pick up a false positive on a hint, and the fallout of that is so severe that catching hints at any point in the future is not even considered an option. Risking repeating the fallout of that one false positive basically renders you calloused to any and all future hints lest. And those esoteric hints are pretty much all you'll get from women, unless you're the 1%. Other 99% of men are expected to navigate through the minefield of entitlement, while doing all the work, and walking on knives that is current dating game.
Speaking of percentages... 80/20 rule....
All that made me, a non top 1%, somewhat socially challenged/inept, otherwise at least average male, quit dating almost all together. Doing all the work just to be left at the mercy of the suitress, risking catching any hints lest its a fals positive...I simply don't find it worth. I respect myself too much for that.
And I guess that refusing to play against a stacked deck would label me MGTOW. And I get it. And I get how me not playing the game means nothing because there'll always be an exces of men, either better or more desperate than me, so thing's wont ever change for me.
And that's the saddest part... Being aware how that's my status quo. It won't change. I, an average man, don't get to "wait for the one". I don't get to choose from a pool of suitresses "orbiting" me. I don't get to have "backup plans" to "settle down". If I'm unsuccessful in dating I'm a failure. I, a man, don't get to talk about my experiences and my emotions concerning dating, lest I be labeled an incel/mysoginist/entitled male pig.
This is pretty much all I have. To whine, vent ... And cope. And this is pretty mucho what this post is. Me venting, as I have no where else to vent.
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