They're everywhere. And men are on the losing end of most of them.

I. Expectations

  • A man is expected to provide, protect, initiate, plan, pay, and perform — emotionally, physically, financially.
  • A woman is celebrated for simply showing up.
  • A man who sleeps around is a "player" (sometimes positive, sometimes negative). A woman who does the same is "empowered."
  • A man who struggles financially is a "loser." A woman who struggles financially is "doing her best."

II. Dating

  • A man must approach, risk rejection, and handle it gracefully — or he's "creepy" or "weak."

Cold-approaching USED TO not have consequences with a simple "no thank you" or "I'm not interested, sorry." End of story. But thanks to social media and the internet, women can now express how "uncomfortable" she was when a random guy talked to her in the street, at a coffee shop, etc. on Instagram, Tiktok, or Facebook (just to name a few examples,) and get ALL the sympathy + potentially ruin that guy's life from just trying to make conversation. Heck, they can even record guys' (not only without their consent,) but literally minding their own business, and she will be showered with attention online. Said comments in her video would consist of "ew what a creep," "Stay strong girl," "GIRL BOSS."

  • A woman waits to be approached, then decides yes or no. Zero risk of rejection.
  • A man's height, income, and status are scrutinized. A woman's expectations are rarely questioned.
  • If a man has standards, he's "shallow." If a woman has standards, she "knows her worth."

III. Divorce & Custody

  • Women initiate 70-80% of divorces and THEY receive primary custody in over 80% of cases — even when both parents are equally fit.
  • Men pay child support and alimony, often based on outdated formulas that don't account for their own living expenses.
  • A man can lose his home, his children, his income, even sent to prison, and still be told he "should have chosen better" OR "should have kept it in his pants," even by friends of his.
  • False allegations of abuse? They can ruin a man's life with zero consequences for the accuser.

The worst part?

When men point this out, they're called:

  • Incels
  • Misogynists
  • Bitter
  • Toxic

We're not allowed to notice the imbalance without being attacked.

I'm not saying women don't face challenges. Of course they do. Some examples include pregnancy, safety concerns, societal pressure to look a certain way — those are real.

But two things can be true at the same time.

Women have struggles. And men have struggles that are ignored, dismissed, or mocked.

Until we can talk about both honestly, without name-calling, silence & shutdowns, nothing will change. This stuff NEEDS to be called out.