I've been browsing both MRA and feminism subs for a while now. Before I say my opinion, I will introduce myself and my environment, which may be the source of some bias (to either side):

I (20 M) grew up in a traditional family (father work, mother care for kids) in mainland China before moving to the US at a young age where I got exposed to both right and left-wing ideologies. I have encountered many instances where girls were favored, prioritized, and faced lighter punishments. Now, in college, I have female friends who experienced creeps and dated men with no understanding of consent.

Things that r/ Feminism should keep posting:

  • Individual testimonies of abuse.
    • The caveat is that the posts should focus on accusing the individual abuser, not the gender of the abuser. The comments should be offering support, legal advice (which they do), etc., and not complaining about "r-pe culture," which isn't helping OP at all.
  • Success stories of people who healed, girls' schools being built in underdeveloped nations, supplies donated to women in need etc.
    • There are places in the world where women are treated as "baby-making machines," places where they carry water and suffer back injury, places where they don't have access to education, and places where young girls are getting married for poverty. When those things get better, it is worth celebrating.
  • History
    • Most pre-cold war history is patriarchal. Suffrage movements and female scholars should be recognized. The problem is feminists use history as an example of saying, "look at how bad men are," instead of "look at how far we've come. Let's not repeat past mistakes."

What r/ Feminism got wrong:

  • Mansplaining
    • Making a simple explanation is not harming women. No one is hurt from a simplified explanation. I can go up to a physics Ph.D and say "you know how hit air rises? Well, I decided to live on the second floor to be slightly warmer." This isn't viewing the professor as inferior, this isn't hurting the professor in any way.
  • Victim Blaming
    • Refusing to offer support for an SA victim and saying, "you deserved it" is wrong. BUT preventative advice to those who are not even victims is not victim-blaming. Telling girls who have not yet been abused to take caution is not harming them. In fact, if we stop doing that, r-pe cases will increase, because surprise, people don't know how to stay safe or mitigate risk.
  • Teach your sons...
    • We literally have mandatory health classes about consent. Everyone before coming to university must watch a video understanding reporting and consent. Before going to work, there are mandatory SA Prevention videos. I've heard "no means no," "drunk cannot consent," etc. at least 5 times. We are already teaching people, stop reposting this.
    • **"**but SA still happens despite all this." Criminals don't care about teachings. There are religious people who kill despite their religion telling them not to. There are rude people despite schools teaching them to be kind. There are people who litter despite signs telling them not to.
  • R-pe culture
    • See above. It's not a problem. Even it is it, we've already fixed it with Title IX, mandatory training, and the fact that r-pists get stigmatized like crazy. The fact that people who shoot r-pists get hailed as heroes.
  • Manspreading
    • Literally just tell the person, "Can you move your legs a bit, I would like to sit here."

Now finally, my personal stance on abortion:

Abortion should be allowed if ONE of these conditions is met:

  1. The girl is under 18 or over 40. The risk of death during pregnancy and labor is high, abortion saves the girl.
  2. The girl is a victim of r-pe. She shouldn't have to go through 9 months of pain for something she never asked for.
  3. The child will be born with a life-long suffering illness. No child should endure suffering they didn't ask for.
  4. The to-be mother has a health condition where pregnancy and childbirth put the mother's life at risk (e.g. uterus cancer).

Abortion is a medical procedure used to save the mother's life. It's not something that you "just do because you want to."

One thing though, feminine hygiene products should be tax-free and contraceptives would be publicly funded to reduce prices. That decreases abortion rates, controls over-population, and gives women more choices.